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Discussion in 'Parents & Siblings' started by Benadryl, Oct 28, 2019.

  1. Afresh

    Afresh Gold IL'ite

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    Is there a straight answer to this really!
    These kind of questions are the ones in which assumptions ( or constraints ) come in to play.
    Now in human cases like yours or mine also ;)
    Our own perspective of what happened in the past and what we view from our vantage as fair will enter into the assumptions in the equation
    That is what will finally decide the implicit relationship that you are trying to derive here.

    So in finality, if you , your sisters and your parents all agree to one version of the sequence of events then you can have your RIGHT answer.
    But going by my own limited life experiences o_O:sunglasses:, to find the horizon where all thou shall meet is a lil implausible; what do you say?
     
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    nakshatra1 Platinum IL'ite

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    Don't get into exact calculations of money - and money is not the most important thing.What matters is that you three should be there for your parents'needs in whatever way possible for each - monetary or physical care. what matters is your parents are healthy/happy and basic needs fulfilled. Anything above that - for luxury should not be entertained - neither we should be greedy nor encourage our family to be greedy , and 90k/month IS A SHOCKING AMOUNT!Greed is biggest problem in world today, and remember no matter how much you give hardly anyone will ever acknowledge it is enough. So stop fuelling their materialism




    Constantly dealing with guilt-tripping family members is not healthy, so reduce your stress and avoid excess discussions on money topic. . Dont think that - anything however much you give ,you will get acknowledgement so better take your own rational /informed decisions on how much expenses are justified.Make a proper financial/ savings plan on all heads and a reasonable amount to send to parents to fulfil their needs. Its not so simple like earning in dollars ...you have your own health challenges / your child's autism .You are sending hard earned money by cutting from your child's future which is being used for rituals and most probably will be spent for lavish-weddings/dowry for your sisters.Better if you do real charity with that surplus money by helping educate a poor child , atleast you will get fulfilment and meaning that your hard earned money used for good purpose.



    Also the current situations will change drastically once your sisters are married and as your parents get older, You should have a proper plan on taking care of your and wife's parents. That time again, you and siblings have to decide how to share responsibilities and make a plan - so dont get into exact monetary calculations- there is no simple solution.
     
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