Life is a curse for me.

saipavani123 · May 7, 2010

Why is this cousin so interested in your life anyways? Ugh!! Why can't people mind their own business?
Click to expand...

for obvious reasons...blackmailing and stuff.....
<input id="gwProxy" type="hidden"><input onclick="jsCall();" id="jsProxy" type="hidden">

inpain · May 7, 2010

asuitablegirl said: ↑

InPain,

How do you think your husband would react if you told him? I know at first I told you to tell him about your past and the blackmailing cousin... but do you think your dh or his parents would physically hurt you over it? I know sometimes these revelations can bring out extreme anger, and I wouldn't want to suggest something that could get you in even worse trouble. So you need to think what type of nature your husband has before you tell. But on the other hand, if you don't tell, you will always have to worry about the cousin gossiping about your past relationship, or even the forced one he had with you.

Jeez, this situation is so complex!
Click to expand...

My husband is a staright forward chap. I knew he would not take my previous affair.I had discussed this with my elder sis whether to disclose my affair to my husband( before marriage). She prevented me from doing so and forced me to undergo an Hymenoplasty.She is a plastic surgeon, in a diff country.

asuitablegirl · May 7, 2010

for obvious reasons...blackmailing and stuff.....
Click to expand...

Yeah like I said, he is a predator. Really vile.

lavii · May 7, 2010

but Inpain i agree with ASG too i mean to clear this mess if you had IC with him...you have already been cheeated by a man you should have known that would further create mess

asuitablegirl · May 7, 2010

InPain,

So what you are saying is, if you tell him about the cruise ship relationship and the cousin's FORCED relationship... he will not take it well. Do you think he would try to divorce you? Or tell yours or his parents?

radhaparth2000 · May 7, 2010

Dear inpain,

Past is past. Forget it. Now you have committed mistake, but now you realised. Get some professional counselling to get out of this depression. You are married for sometime now and you should know about your husband. If possible share your past with him if can accept and all is going to be well.

To err is human. All of us are not perfectionist. Now you realised, please do not make more mistakes and mess it. I pray almighty that all your issues get sorted out soon.

inpain · May 7, 2010

asuitablegirl said: ↑

InPain,

So what you are saying is, if you tell him about the cruise ship relationship and the cousin's FORCED relationship... he will not take it well. Do you think he would try to divorce you? Or tell yours or his parents?
Click to expand...

He will not accept this.Not sure if he will file a divoce.

inpain · May 7, 2010

radhaparth2000 said: ↑

Dear inpain,

Past is past. Forget it. Now you have committed mistake, but now you realised. Get some professional counselling to get out of this depression. You are married for sometime now and you should know about your husband. If possible share your past with him if can accept and all is going to be well.

To err is human. All of us are not perfectionist. Now you realised, please do not make more mistakes and mess it. I pray almighty that all your issues get sorted out soon.
Click to expand...

Thanks for your comments.

I am confused, dont know what to do.Will have to visit a psycologist soon.

Priya16 · May 7, 2010

inpain,

My advise.Don't even think to start family also.I would advise you prepare for Divorce too and try to stay on your legs.If the cousin blackmailed you that itself you would have faced your husband but it's too late.
Tell everything to your husband and ready for whatever he wanted.I am pretty sure that cousin will not leave you and one day he will disclose everything to all.So be prepare for worst situation and don't even think of having a baby at all.
Open up to your husband and ready to handle your life from ZERO.I think your husband might have forgiven with your past affair but he may not able to forgive with his cousin and that is very very wrong step you made.
I think you easily beleive the people.Just my 2 cents.
Instead of living in guilt ,its better to stay alone right.

Is that cousin is married?Then you should blow up his marraige?

asuitablegirl · May 7, 2010

Inpain,

Do you want to tell him? Or do you want to try and keep this a secret forever? What is your gut instinct telling you to do? Also, have you told anyone else about this predicament... like your sister? If so, what did she think you should do?