Thank you Wondergirl..I have read and commented on your post, and I feel that you have already passed the most difficult phase. Life's wonderful and time does heal..right now it may be hard to believe that you can be as happy as before you were married, infact you'd be more. Be done with the divorce procedure as quickly as possible, don't let your case drag for maintainence/alimony unless you're in dire need of money. Your freedom and new life is your biggest alimony. Be totally blind to the negatives which have resulted from this change, there are many, but just pretend they don't exist. Bad memories and doubts will come and go, let them come and float away like clouds. Cry a little, vent a little and go back to what you love doing. Now you will have a lot of clarity, confidence and independence. The world will have lesser expectations from you and you truly have nothing to lose now. Life's like a blank canvas again, and now you're free from societal bonds- as in from the relatives/friends side ( atleast thats what i felt)..I never thought getting divorced would also be liberating in so many ways, people usually won't wanna mix up in your affairs now- which is good. You are free, chirpy bird- the sky is yours to fly..fly away! I hope you have a great, fulfilling life ahead, and don't ever give up on love.