Lies Lies Lies

Tuffy, call me a brat but at that age I was doing things similar to your daughter. I was not exactly lying but just not telling the entire story. part of the reason was my mom was our Head Mistress. Anything I do gets reported back. Back in those days we are only talking 50 paise. My mom used to give it to be to buy something else and I used to buy what ever I want. However, it was understood that the money given to me for one thing cannot be asked again. I learned it the hard way. My parents never really bothered too much as long as I dont hide anything that really matters. Chocolate vs icecream...no big deal. Book vs chocolate? Big deal.

Pick and choose your battles. she is exploring her individuality. I really did turn out OK. There is a fine line between a pre-teen and a teen. You dont have to be her friend but you dont have to be a parent at every turn. Try interchanging them.

Are you really expecting that she must tell you absolutely everyting that goes on in her life? If yes, you are being unreasonable.