Negativity? If the mind set is questioned here, what about the experience we faced with our inlaws? What about the inlaws biased nature which is outrightly shown without any hesitation? Coming to adopting the inlaws way of working and living what to do when adopting them is very tiresome and difficult for a working lady? What if a girl is black mailed to leave her parents and do seva only to dh family? Instead of negativity I see a too much of optimism here on theoritical basis than considering the present practical siuations. I am sure every girl would have boasted about her would be husband and inlaws when the marriage is fixed. At this point of time even the girl would have built lot of expectations on her future. So what about her expectations and her parents expectations that their dd will be taken good care in her ILs house? It doesnt mean that a DIL should always work towards meeting the expectations of DH and ILs. And even she tries its never ever going to happen. And we have Ilites who are more than a decade into their marriage here to emphasize on the same point again and again.