Hello wonderful ladies out there.May be we are a bit more wiser and more matured now....But there was a time where we were really naive and have absolutely no idea about all these in'laws politics....dramas...tantrums.. But we tried very hard to just fit in...we almost kept a smiling face though we're right down burning with pain and sorrow ..just for fitting in and just for approval ...or acceptance. Eventually we learnt a very hard lesson/had realized/ in a irony...that its never there....that this is not worthy at all...its never us....or its never of any use...and we quit...we leanrt forget and forgive not for others but to our own sanity. we are definitely not the person we are 5 years back...and definitely not the person when we were married....may be 5 ...10 years back.we accepted what is what...But, there is some residue which is lingering around till now.....some times more often...that we were taken advantage of,,,that we were violated....we were hushed off mercilessly. so iam not asking about wife and husband relationship here...thats saved for a different day ...place and time. tell me one thing with in laws..which you get the residue feeling about any one situation.