Let's talk about sex? How to talk about it to your child?

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Sure Laks...once I get the book and go through it with dd then I will post on how it all went and how far I think she understood.
Once I open up the periods topic then I think that will get me started on talking to her about sex education...

 

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Adara,

My DD school had talks and details how much i do not know from the 7th standard being in india. but today in 9th, she says she understands about the reproductive system. (Though not much is discussed in detail, i feel the kids do have an idea of what is what.)

The other day one of the teachers was very much against the sex-education courses of the USA though she had her own arguments against it, i just left it as it is. one person's elixir is another's poison.

I would say go with what you feel fine as a mom. your instinct will definitely guide you. Even when talking about puberty, I talked to her saying if she gets it she needs to come and talk to me, and it is a mom-dd secret.

Regarding the average age, I am really worried with the average going down every year. 10 is the average for india. (we are also fast approaching the global average age of 8/10 according to my gynaec:hide.

Malaytha, my gynaec is against giving too much soy products to kids. I stopped giving my ds soy nuggets and flakes and milk. I give them once a month now.

Tulir website lead me to this informative site. I just printed the necessary parts and filed it and presented it to my DD.

 

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Laks,

the link talks about everything from the changes to the bees ......check it out. so easily understandable.

For me, since i was on periodic check ups due to my gynaec problems, she was my guide. infact, one day i took DD to the clinic along with me, when she was 10, and she did talk to her about how things would change for her.

I did ask about it long time back in one of the threads.

 

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Dear Adara,Laks, et all,
In my DD's case i first talked to her about puberty in very scientific terms and so she was prepared for that, she got it at 12. Adara the book that you have ordered is a godsend only in explaining not this topic but all other ones pertaining to girls and taking care. I would highly recommend it. I got it when she was around 10. I still bug her to read that book once in a while for good upkeep of herself.
Now about birds and bees topic, I spoke to her before they spoke at school so she doesnt feel to embarassed. That too i did scientifically without getting too much in detail but still she found it gross! In my experience it is good to do both, first you start out the conversations and then they hear it at school too.
Hope it helps,
Aparna

 

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Shanti, I have never before heard that soy products may actually not be good for kids! Do you know why this is? DD gets three glasses of soy milk a day, to replace the three glasses of milk she would have during the course of the day. Can you explain your gynecologist's thought process here?

Also, thank you very much for the informative link. I have bookmarked it. DD is currently too young for any of this stuff, but the information will be very helpful to us when the time comes.

 

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Malaytha,

She says that soy products disturbs the hormones. I am on a soya based estrogen compound..before HRT, and she told me to avoid it for both my kids.

Check out this site. Do google for the side effects of soy products :spin:spin. too much soy protein is definitely harmful. (I remember chitvish writing about her experience too.)

 

Re: Talking to kids about sex!...when and how?

Laks09,

This is what my gyn says. most of the times, we blindly follow all that we think is healthy. what is healthy for somebody maynot suit us. she also says though we are now global, indian metabolism has a certain resistance and acceptance for certain foods.

Both my kids have soya milk because of lactose intolerance.

I was giving soya too my kids until i had a indepth talk with her. i have reached menopause (surgical) so on soya proteins, and will definitely say if it works is better than hrt and its side effects.

I have a siddha friend who says if we follow our food habits according to the seasons and the availability, lot of our problems will be solved. do we have any seasons in chennai. we get all foods all times.