Lessons You Have Learnt In Life...

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  1. anika987

    anika987 Finest Post Winner

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    1) Let friendships or any relationship be organic.Never force yourself to be in someone’s life because you feel lonely.

    2) Wear what you really love and feel comfortable with and is your style and NOT what is in trend or to look good for others.

    3) Experiences are more pleasurable than beans and materialistic things.

    4) Exercise.Good not just for your health but for your mind.

    5) Expectations are the cause of misery.Manage it right.


    6) Eliminate or limit anything or anyone which serves you no purpose.

    7) In the end..it is ONLY you for yourself.Even family won’t stand by you at all times.


    8) Have your Signature style.Nothing beats your originality.Being yourself is the best compliment you can give for yourself.

    These are my lessons I have learnt in life.
    How about yours?
     
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    Good ones!

    One thing I learned: there is always another side to a story which make the villain the hero.
     
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    I am compiling my list.. : ) but meanwhile, genuine question:
    Must be a typo. But what was supposed to go in place of beans?
     
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    I was confused too... so I tried to go with the context of relative pleasurability... and look up the Urban dictionary. Damn!! Life is continuous learning.
     
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    1. Never take any relationship for granted.
    2. Time is a major factor...people change and circumstances change..we should change accordingly.
    3. Never give up your dreams and aspirations for anyone. They will not appreciate it and you will feel resentment your entire life..
    4. Financial dependence is a must...never depend permanently on anyone for money and have your own income. If anything goes wrong in future you'll be left stranded if you're financially dependent.
    5. Friends are very important..they are relations which we form by choice ...if you have good and genuine friends do not let them go..keep in touch..be there for their bad and good times and special occasions.
    6. Never underestimate the importance of studies and career..the only reason a woman should take a break is for pregnancy, babies or health.. not otherwise.
    7. Money is power.. power commands respect...both respect from others and self.
    8. Never bend backwards and change yourself drastically and give up your individuality for anyone...you'll feel resentment and depression..do what you like , wear what you like and go where you want...without guilt.
     
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    Thanks Anika for starting this thread, so I could contribute few of my thoughts.
     
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    1. You cant change anyone ... what they prioritise, whom they care for etc comes from what they are made of.... you have to take it or leave it.
    2. Expectation only works between give and take type people... not between give-only/take-only type of people.
     
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    Ha ha i noticed that but not able to edit it..some typo..forgot what I wanted to replace lol
     
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    Point 4....financial independence has many spectrums also.you may not be left stranded trust me.That was something I used to worry and counseling made certain things clear.you may still be fine though there will be little hiccups in the beginning.Everything surely depends on person and their personal situations.Society has brainwashed people so much..too much mental conditioning on what is right or wrong.It is a long explanation but let me leave it at that.


    5. Friendships should be natural and organic.they will still be there even if you meet them after years and no relationship is selfless or perfect.It is fine.We should be comfortable and not feel drained in relationships.

    7.Money is not the power we always think.it is good and useful for sure but again it depends.
    Respect from others,approval is also a mental trap.

    Don’t mistake me for countering your points.I was just trying to help and certain society norms have made humans set their own trap and gets tough to break it..

    but anyways let me leave it at that..

    rest of the points super!
     
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    Point no 1..excellent and true.we cannot control others but only ourself and how we react.
     

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