When I was 10 years old, my Godrej cupboard (yes, the ubiquitous grey elephant) was 20 years old. At that time I thought 20 was soooo old. When I was 20 years old, I realized I was as old as my Godrej cupboard was 10 years ago, that a decade just slipped through my fingers like the grains of sand. When I was 30 years old, I realized that my 20s had crossed in the blink of an eye and I never really got to do any fun, adventurous things that I really wanted to do due to circumstances beyond my control. Now, I feel that every day is a bonus touched by the ageless death. You may be fit, eating right and doing all the correct things and yet you are here today but gone tomorrow. After my mom passed, I changed my approach to relationships and life: I try to not think about or dwell on negativity - both people and events. When my mind goes to a particular negative person or an event, I try to consciously try to think of something good that is in my life. I know that getting angry and bitter only ruins my own life and affects my clarity and peace of mind. I understand that whatever little time is left on this earth is just too little to have regrets and hold on to 'those vile people who talked such bad things to me or my parents' - just to maintain a relationship. In cases where things become intolerable to me and I can let them go, I choose to let them go no regrets because I believe that a relationship should cause happiness and positivity and not negativity and stress . If I don't have an option to let go of that relationship because of other close relationships tied to it, I make sure that I am courteous to them even if they have been negative to me in the past and do not have any basic courtesy in the present. That is not saying that I am perfect. Because I am not. I am unable to forget and therefore forgive. But I try my best not to dwell on the past and move on without wishing ill. Regarding people like in-laws, I try to look at the big picture and think, when I become a mother-in-law myself, would I like to be treated the way I am treating them. That mostly answers all my dilemmas. That is not to say they are perfect. There are a lot of things that they do which I don't like. I have made a list of those things for my own reference so that when I become a mother-in-law, I do not repeat the same mistakes that they do with my daughter-in-law. No age after marriage is too early to start such a list. Moreover, it is not worth ruining your relationship with your spouse because of your in-laws. No child, your spouse included would like to hear anything against his parents, even if his parents are super villans. According to my friends, I am a person with immense patience and tolerance. I would like to think that I am because its very easy to talk hurtful words, but words once spoken can never be taken back. Hence, I choose not to retaliate, even if others see it as a sign of weakness. Thus, I inscribe my thoughts, etching them digitally, a testament to a life embraced, relationships nurtured, and lessons unfurled.