I know a couple of friends who did their residencies while with babies. They hired a nanny/sent kid to daycare. Could your parents come and stay for 6 months, then your husband's for 6 more, and rotate? Cutting through all the anger on her about your post, what everyone really is saying is that it isn't good for your baby, nor you, really. You're a doctor, you know it! Don't do it unless you've explored all options.