hi saisai, i am not going to say anything earth-shatteringly different from what all the others have said here. if you plan to leave your kid with your parents, you will have to be mentally prepared for the following: you will miss your child a lot, so will your husband. you will miss out on the most precious milestones in your child's life. you have not mentioned how old the baby is. if he/she is very very young (a few months old), imagine having to hear from your parents about how baby took her first steps today, how she got her first tooth etc. well, you could have video tapes, but it is not the same thing. if baby is ill, imagine the anxiety you will feel and at this distance you will not be able to do anything. besides, if this is going to create a rift between your parents and husband, is all this worth it? your child might grow more attached to her grandparents' than to you. when you eventually want to get her back, she might be unwilling to leave her grandparents. after her grandparents time, she might be left rudderless - living with people whom she does not really see as her parents. think all these points over well and think if you are prepared to face all these situations in future and whether they are really worth it? also remember many people who have no children would give an arm and a leg to have a child of their own/ adopted child. a child is not a matter of convenience. the child did not ask to be born. it was your desire to bring the child in this world. do you not owe your child all your time, attention and love? the decision is fully yours. may whatever decision you take be right for you.