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Just venting.....

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by Kamla, Dec 6, 2007.

  1. Kamla

    Kamla IL Hall of Fame

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    I said my bye byes. As she faded away from my vision, I felt limp.

    I functioned the last couple of days like a zombie, doing things that have to be done, washing the last change of clothes and packing them away for her, printing out important numbers and addresses in case she might need it in an emergency, making a sandwich for her duffel bag just in case.....

    Yes, my dear mother came to stay with me for a few days. It is too much we ask of her. Selfish thoughts, helpless decisions...made and carried out as none of us have other options. At her age, it is a long long way to travel, never mind what we say to ease our guilty thoughts. She came to visit us because we cannot go to her and this is the only way that she can spend a stretch of time with me.

    Even during her short stay, I feel I could not give her enough quality time. I was always in a rush to attend to various chores around the house or running to attend some errands. She would wait patiently till I am done with the morning hours of the day. Then it would be lunching, cleaning and straightening the kitchen. Bathrooms and laundry work, almost all home makers here can understand what I am talking about. Add other sundry stuff like shopping for groceries, someone visiting or vice versa, TV and of course, my sojourns to IL! .......She would be still waiting.......

    Then it was time for her departure. I felt sad, I felt guilty, I felt helpless.

    Now she is gone, I am forlorn...My mother, my precious darling and now in her old age, I feel she is my baby.

    Oh, what is it we opt for when we decide to live so faaaar away from our dearest ones??

    L, Kamla
     
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  2. Nivedi

    Nivedi New IL'ite

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    Dear Kamla,

    It feels like just the other day I read about the day your dear mom landed in the US and you had written about it here. The time we spend with our dear ones just flies. When I visit India, I do'nt seem to have enough of a 2 month holiday. I wish it would be a 3 month holiday. And may be if it was a 3 month one, I would wish for more. It must have been so fulfilling for your mom to spend time with all of you.
     
  3. krish22

    krish22 Senior IL'ite

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    Hi Kamala,

    I can totally understand your situation.
    Once married we are of no use to parents.But still they care for us and do their part.
    Sometimes I feel like to have wings and fly to see them n come back.
    Webphone,internet etc is not at all enough for me.

    I can just pray for them.
     
  4. Sriniketan

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    Kamla i can totally understand your feelings and the situation. We must be happy that we are atleast able to spend some quality time with our parents.
    Kindly let us know your mom's safe arrival in India.
     
  5. Anandchitra

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    Dear Kamla
    So thoughtfully written..The thing that bothers me is the never ending work and errands..so we are not able to spend quality time with the people we care about..I am sure you had a good time with her..time sure does FLY that way..take care..
     
  6. sunkan

    sunkan Gold IL'ite

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    dear kamla,
    never feel inadequate, they have also come to see you, and they retain that image in them, understand, as they were also young some day had to keep the children waiting, so dont feel let down, i am sure you will over come and cherish each moment spent..love sunkan
     
  7. Kamla

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    Dear Nivedi,

    It is true, time is cruel! When we need it, it seems to fly away, when we do not need it, it seems to stretch and stretch! Have you ever wondered why 1 minute is so long when you are waiting for that cup of drink to get hot in the micro??!
    No, time never is enough when you are visiting your dear ones, three months seem to go by like three days!

    L, Kamla
     
  8. Kamla

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    Dear Krish,

    Still, you should consider yourself very very lucky today with all these internet possibilities.
    Years back, my father used to send his birthday wishes to us through telegrams! When I received the very first one, I was numbed with angst wondering what message it contained!

    L, Kamla
     
  9. Kamla

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    Dear Sriniketan

    Thanks for your thoughtful reply.
    My mother unfortunately had a very tiresome flight. Flight was delayed by nearly three hours and she got stuck in Mumbai as the connecting flights got messed up!
    She is fine though...All is well that ends well!

    L, Kamla
     
  10. Kamla

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    Yes Chithra,

    The work seems neverending! Even though we know it will Never run away, we (I) get all hassled up till it gets done. Wisdom is to put it aside and try to enjoy the rare company or anything else that is of more importance.
    That's why we need to tank up on the Gita lessons....I think you will agree with me.:)

    L, Kamla
     

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