Japan's New System

in love marriage we know the person character, likes , dislikes almost everything. Yeah, some wrong choice of marriages are also there. In arranged marriages alliances come through relatives/ brokers mostly. They just know their background, status, job etc but they don't know bridegroom's attitude . They just believe what others say about them. In the first meeting ( pellichupulu) we never know the person's anything. So just accepting the person not right choice .I felt like that...yeah, so many arranged marriages going on well.
Don't know that Japan system work or not work because no one tells the truth at first place .
It takes time to know the other persons character slowly...

 

Sorry I have another point of view

If people sit for a marriage discussion purposefully, definitely they try to project themselves as good/understanding human beings.

I don't find anything wrong if a person choose for looks until they changes their choices timely or only for looks. I don't believe in, people prefer only for character, but differs with people whose love has rosen from friendship.

But behavior only matters throughout your life.

Arrange marriages also not like 3 minutes Maggy. People enquires about family, means a person can be considered as good if he grown in a healthy atmosphere.

And I don't feel any difference in both kind of marriages. W/H fights, compromises,in-laws problems everything same, no one takes their step back as it's arranged/love.

In any relationship friendship/love/mrg people tries to show best qualities unknowingly. And people behavior/reactions/honest depends on circumstances.
Ek pathar ko silp banane keliye marna yi hai, pray kiya tho oo khud silp ban jatha hai kya?

Is this irrelevant to thread subject

 

@rachaputi .this time somehow I may not agree with you some of your points guruji

 

Glad to know that dear. Let me know your version

 

Statements from experiences cannot be denied . Agreed this version too babe!!