Its not an EMA...but is it right?

No i dont think ur cheating but i think u need to stop talking to him or if not try to reduce talking to him means keep minimum like just work related stuff.

Shweta

 

Hi Heron,

I can just say be careful with this guy...
I am not sure and ofcourse doubt his intentions... This is the first thing which flashed in my mind after I read your post.

Thanks
Malar

 

why does he want to be " just friend" with you??have you ever disclosed your family details to him?

 

As long as your conscious is clear it's not cheating. Word of warning though he might be using the friendship line to get your guard down so be careful with the guy.

 

I would not see it as cheating unless you reciprocate his feelings for you.

The guy at work, a married man who knows you too are married, should not have even said something like it in the first place and from what you've said, he seems to be fishing for your vulnerable points.

If you are confident about yourself, you know you love your husband and no one else, its nothing to worry about. But if you yourself doubt if its wrong, you might as well ignore anyone else's opinion and put him in his place and just avoid further thoughts about this.

 

why add extra headache to already busy( with responsibilities) life?Dont believe him. he is just out of his limits.
It's not a cinema he's not a hero.I hate him.he may take advantage by saying It's all friendship.
who believes a guy anyways?

 

This is a common technique used by desperate guys. First, they'll befriend you. Then, they'll talk sweet and nice like they care for you. Eventually, they'll get what they want and walk off without battling an eyelid. Stay away from him if you do not want to get entangled in a web of guilt and deceit. However, kudos to you for being so straight forward with him.

 

I think there is something missing in this story. I feel 2 things

1. The guy maybe genuine. But the possibility of this is very less
2. I agree with Indianfuntube. Maybe he is tryin to take advantage. I don't think its EMA because you have clearly made your intentions clear. But I think he knows about your husband and thats why he is trying to enter your mind and trying to divert your attention. Do one thing. Tell him "if you want me to be your friend, invite me home, let me meet your wife and family etc". I am sure he will back off.

If he wants to have an EMA, he would not like his wife to know about you. But I agree with most of the people who have posted here. Just be careful

 

If I were you..I would not keep friendship with a guy who would express love to me while knowing that I am married, and on top of that he himself is married too!!...I would point blankly tell him, that I cannot spend time outside or talk anything with him beyond what is professional.

You're not cheating your husband yet, but I think you're cheating yourself in believing that this is friendship. One sided friendship-one-sided love is NOT friendship, its just a complicated relation!!..