Hi ILs, I am a regular reader of this website and cannot express how much comfort and advice I have been able to get from here. Although I have never posted a thread myself, I could relate to many problems my other friends here are having. I hope you will all be able to guide me as well. I got married just 7 months back, it was an arranged marriage and my husband though born in India grew up here in US. His parents moved here when he was 12 years old. Earlier they used to live in a joint family. When I met him in India, he gave an impression that he was bought up with Indian values and his parents are very traditional so I too felt the same. But after relocating here I found out this was not the case. He had earlier mentioned that he just drinks socially and doesn't eat non veg. But when I came here, the scene was the opposite, he drinks a lot and non veg is his main food. I adjusted to this, then I found out that he is like a typical american guy. Recently I found out that he has had past relationships and also he has slept with other women before. I was devastated to hear this, but it is my fault too that I didn't inquire this earlier since I never thought some one with Indian values could do this. Now he tells me that he cannot do anything about what happened in the past. And he is telling me that he never been with any girl since he met me. I am finding it very hard to get over this. I am confused how I should deal with his past. We have had arguments in our marriage since day one and this whole year we have been fighting every single day. He doesn't come home on time, spends all the time just being with himself or going out with his friends. We recently started going to counseling but that is also not helping us. He cannot understand my feelings and is not ready to hear to me. I am very confused and really not interested to be in this marriage as I am not one bit happy. But I am worried about the consequences of divorce. I am so frustrated and in such a terrible mental state. I just don't know what to do. Please help me.