Hi Ladies, I have been married for 6 years and I have a 4 month old daughter. I have a problem like all married ladies do. But in this case my husband is not in my side. My husband loves me a lot and he took care of me when I was pregnant and during delivery was also he was too supportive as we had no-one to help us during that time but whenever it comes to in-laws he is very rigid on that issue. Like my FIL always talk ill of my parents over phone (as we live in US) and also when I visit to their place in India. Many of times even my husband know about this but he never react and all always warn me to remain silent and not to argue/reply against them. As I am a very calm and silent kind of person even I dont reply to them too but I expected at least my husband will fight for me but that never happened till now. Also I have four SILs all are married and they also keep taunting me whenever we call. My husband also know how they speak with me but every time my husband calls them, he forces me to talk to them which I don't like, but I cant say "NO" as I don't want to hurt my husband or you can say I am not able to say no. Though they insult me like anything, my husband says they are elders dont mind their words. My situation is neither I can revert them back nor my husband speaks for me. Whenever his sister has a small issue he always interferes and tries to resolve from here talking over phone for long. But dont realize even I am the eldest daughter of the family and I cant take any responsibility for my family. I never spoke to my parents regarding this as they think their son-in-law is great and keeps me happy. I dont want to hurt my parents by talking all this as they have 2 more responsibilities(my two unmarried sisters). Many of the time I even thought of leaving him but I cant do so because of our culture, society and thinking of my parents and sisters.On one side he is very close to his parents, sisters, brother-in-laws and calls them very week with a long long talk (sometimes even one hour at a time) and forces me to talk whereas on the other side he hardly speaks to my parents or sisters. when I ask to speak with them he says you call on weekdays thats why I could not talk, but when I used to call on weekends he used to act as if he is disinterested. This has been happening from the day of our marriage and ours is a arranged marriage. After 6 years when I spoke to him on this issue in a cool mood, he denied everything and said if I have assumed that he dont speak to my parents when you call then ok let it be. We alwys have a big fight whenever we talk on this issue and he always warn me to call my father and ask if they have trained me like this and at that moment I beg him not to call as it make my father upset. My mother passed away few years back and I dont want to give my father more tension. Its always me who had to compromise. One big thing is all my husband's earnings is in the hands of my FIL and in his name. My husband is the only son and he thinks his father will manage the money wisely. whereas what I have heard from some reliable sources and even my MIL says he misuses the money and gives to some of his faithful people which never comes back. My hubby doesn't keep track of the money and where its deposited and when it will be matured. I tried to convince my husband that he should keep track of the money and it should ne transfered to his name and whenever my hubby asks his father to consolidate all the money and keep it one place my FIL doesnt listen and again deposit in his own wish and his own name. my hubby says what can i do if he doesnt listen i cant fight with him for this. my hubby never realize that it may create problem sometimes and now even we have a kid and we have to look for her future too. Dont know how he will realize the things. All these years I have been doing what he likes, what he wants me to do, I never did anything against his wish, even I never bought a dress against his wish. Because of all these things I am not able to concentrate on anything, making my married life worse and even I cant rely on my husband for my problems thats reason I am very scared of him, never discuss if I have any problems, I feel so lonely and left out these days. Because I have no-one to discuss about such issues. I badly need someone to advice and speak whats in my heart. Please suggest what should I do to make him realize my problems and convince him that what he is doing is wrong. His immediate family comes first and my parents also deserve some respect. Please help me with your expert suggestions. I badly need it!!! I am so sorry for the long post.