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Is Your Husband Aware Of How In-laws Treat You?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Patientone, May 27, 2021.

  1. Patientone

    Patientone Silver IL'ite

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    What has helped him see their nature? Does he say anything?
     
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    Needtobestrong Platinum IL'ite

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    My husband is fully aware and he too joins them in criticizing me. Lot of times husbands do not want to accept the obvious and ignore.
     
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    winterhue Finest Post Winner

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    Is aware, but never says anything. Nor does he interfere. If the issue does not affect him directly , he wont even bother to comment and will coolly walk away with no qualms.
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    Initially he did not believe and we used to have lot of fights..then I told him one day “you can place a candid camera and see what is happening yourself”..that quite shocked him and I also started confronting my in-laws myself and was very stubborn about my truth.God knows what changed but husband makes sure things are in balance.

    I am a bad person in the family but I have faith in truth and have a lot of conscience.I also do not have any ego apologizing to in-laws if I am wrong.So I feel the belief in my truth helped me
     
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    anika987 IL Hall of Fame

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    My neighbor recorded a phone conversation of her in-laws with her and sent it to her husband.In-laws were actually bashing her in that.

    That screwed up everything but she got what she wanted.

    The path she took is wrong but it brought out the truth.
     
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    drdiva Silver IL'ite

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    Yes he knows ..he sometimes supports me and sometimes he is like i am not understanding his parents..they are right and this has happened after 13 yrs of marriage but i am not fully satisfied that he supports me..i feel its an eyewash plus these elderly people are very cunning..they give such award winning performances in front of their son
     
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    I have never been treated bad by in laws. That is because with in laws H deals all things serious and I tell them lighter things. It's been like that forever.
     
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    thats not nice. Do you give him a taste of his own medicine? How do you deal with it? How do you feel?
     
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    How does that make you feel? Angry/upset? How do you deal with it?

    I see a lot of instance where not only men but women too don’t get involved if it doesn’t concern them. And then you get those that don’t get involved but decide to gossip within their groups about how unfair others are.

    A partner especially the husband should make his wife feel protected. Mine is slowly learning yet ignores certain things. My father was different. If my grandmother said anything to my mother he’d say something in her defence and she wouldn’t mention it again. I respect my dad a lot for that.
     
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    So he believed you? I don’t think my husband in the initial stages of marriage would believe me. I know a lot of wife’s show their husband recording and things. Some believe them but if it was my husband. He’d immediately run to his mother and tell her I recorded her. My SILs husband isn’t like that. She showed him and he told his mother off. It also depends how many contacts you have and how much power. My family live abroad so when I go india and stay with in-laws I’m alone with hubby and in-laws. They take advantage and treat me badly. I only have God.

    however in-laws get very scared of SIL who has her family in India.
     

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