married for 10 years Both of us are earning well as of now. have 2 girl kids aged 6 and 1 HAve a fulltime live in maid cum baby sitter who is good aged lady and will not create problems. Postives: ---------- DH does not impose his ways on me, though he wishes to (I can sense taht) Finacial freedonm is there, though reluctantly. ( He does not like me buying gifts for my family side and passes minor remarks). Good loving father My issue is: 1)Value ststem Incompatibilty Value systems are different. I am a very straightforward person,never tell lies, and have comapssion whn i see other fellow human beings suffer and feel like helping them In whichever way ican But I have a bad temper.and get angry very easily .( iam working on this. but very little progress) But my DH does not have an iota of such feelings. Whenever i say something like that he just ignores , or belittles or changes topic He and his family values money the most, wheras for me money is just a means to fulfill the needs. I Want to raise my kids with good value system, But seems the elder one is like dad. I feel sad about this There is no compatibilty between DH and me on this point 2)Minor Inlaw issues. They are stingy and i get angry whn they try to do cost cutting. They wont even give a person a glass of water to someone unless it has some benefits . 3)DH is very cunning person . DH mostly will not come for open fights, but he will pass irritating remarks to try to stop me from doing my way. 50% times i do my way, and 50%, tries to obey him. 4)USual cause for fights is he points out something which is upside down in the house and crticise me .I get angry for this. Sometimes bitter fights alos happen and stop talking for few days or so. My Query is : IS this all minor issues? am I over reacting? MY MAjor worry is due to this differnces and fights, i am developing hatred for DH and he also hates me because of above incompatibilities . How can we love each other inspite of incompatibilities?is that possible?