Should we tolerate someone just coz we are family? My co sister is basically little competitive with me and has passive aggressively said things to me about my color,weight,kids,hardworking etc but I never bothered much and always got along with me.overall nothing major. my second cousin’s wife is someone who basically overdoes everything and she is someone who feels the need to be appreciated. She basically likes to do things back to back of what I did and though irritated ..let it go. ‘we all live nearby and so there are many getogethers. Now.. Although everything appears to be fine outside, I feel I have become more like a guest and the cousin’s wife as family.they cook together and talk Lot more and I feel I try to include myself in the conversation.I strongly feel the cousins wife is trying to push me behind and take my place. My co sister also feels very comfortable with her as the cousin’s wife also does so much housework for her and talks accordingly to what my co sister likes.I also see a difference with the way my co sister is with me.she is ready to put me down but is always appreciative about the other gal.I can sense a difference.. example..if her kid makes a mistake and I confront,she will hate it.but if the cousin’s wife confronts,she will try to explain. ‘another example is..she will appreciate the cousin’s wife for her hard work but she will not like and always put me down and told she has done more hard work with raising kids etc.. ‘I am very much into fitness but she has dissed my eating habits and kind of disregarded my fitness but ready to appreciate the cousin’s wife if she lost even half a pound.just citing these as examples not that I care about this.just to make you guys understand what am trying to convey. Both the ladies will greet each other well and talk but with me I can sense a difference.when I come to the house,the cousin’s wife will have a stern face and after sometime after I say hello,she will talk well.same with my co sister.I do feel sidelined.outside no one can spot much but I KNOW AND I CAN FEEL IT.my brother in law also blindly supports his wife even when she makes mistakes. ‘I really do not want to meet them anymore. ‘I informed my husband,my family and my in-laws also about this.they all said “ we understand but try to maintain distance but tolerate, do not bother for the sake of family,kids else you will get a bad name”.. I feel like why should I tolerate and lose my peace of mind..I have done so much for the ladies but when I feel disregarded..I don’t want to stay.plus even if we talk it out..nothing will change.you cannot force any relationship as it takes both ways. ‘this is a huge decision I will be making..my heart strongly says go against everyone for my peace of mind..leave the ladies and walk away.I am just worried about the bad name from other members of the family,but is it worth my peace of mind? ‘in this world..one has to be shrewd and smart handling relations but I cannot be fake.for me any relationship should be two ways else it is a waste of time.