Is this married life?

No I am not at all angry, 'sadwife'.

But, there is an issue. You raise a point , unconnected to the essence of what is going on in a particular thread. That will divert the thread. OP of the thread will be at a loss. Instead, pay the nominal fee for making yourself a private message user. Then, you can communicate with me and every one, freely, whenever you want to exchange an idea , out of context, with reference to the subject being talked in that thread.

 

indianguy2010,

yes, im clear about it. :bonk

 

OMG, i had the same issues - unconsummated marriage, impotence, pornography viewing, controlling in-laws. i am now getting divorced. the divorce process is hard, but at the end of it i will be rid of him. he could only perform by himself to ****, but could not perform with me. also he was highly successful, had no friends, was emotionally unavailable and distant.

 

Hi,

I read your post. I can understand what you are going through.

I did not see the suggestions or replies by others, how is it with your hubby now? Any change in him ?

I have been married for 4 years now and I should say my husband is very good.

One thing what I understood from marriage is TALK TALK TALK..! what ever it is.. ! Your husband has cheated on you but he still loves you.

I feel that he is watching all those websites maybe for awareness. I am just trying to look at it positively.

Sex awareness is very important is what I realized through my marr life..! Its going to be 4 years since we got married and since both of us did not have any awareness about all these I think we are left behind in having kids, we are getting there and hope for good to happen soon.

So the point here is talk to him, explain him howyou feel about this whole thing. Make him understand that you are here for him leaving all your parents & siblings behind.

Iam sure he will open up. For a long run good relationship all these are kind of hurdles,.

Don't lose hope..!

-Priya

 

he is cheating you girl.

 

hi,

good that you have shared your problem and will get plenty of views.

I do not understand your meaning of "love" for your husband, you are not living in the age of 'sati savitri' come on life is short, correct the problems and issues taking proffessional help and lead a happy life, i suggest you give a sincere 100% try and if it does not work, have a mutual divorce and remarry and enjoy your blissful life.

i have heard about husbands using wives as 'sex doll' without love or attachment, but your husband is lunatically different, no sex, no love, no affection, only pretending to love you.

Tight vagina, intercourse positioning, pentration, premature ejaculation, dryness of vagina, painful vagina, oral sex , are all common problems associated with all married couples for some of less percentage and for some more percentage.

These issues can be solved.

Get this guy proffessional help, and save your marriage and precious life, otherwise both of you will get destroyed inside and suffer.

For a lady like you, hormones and biological needs will kill you emotionally and physically.

Do share your concerns and get feedback.

all the best.

 

Viji,

Wow.. You just nailed it..!
You gave a perfect recipe for a happy life..I think I need this kinda advice too.

My husband and I are married for close to 4 years. and yet we don't have kids.

Its because of all or one of the problems which you had mentioned for married couples

We are trying so hard. but in this process myself and my husband are getting frustrated and we do it as a duty than fun for kids.

what life is this ?

Iam depressed, and like any other indian women I have started thinking what others will say..!

And, as a matter of fact peer pressure is more ..!!!

Iam ruining myself and my husband..Poor guy he did not do any harm other than marrying me I guess.

 

Hey BreadButterJam,

I think your husband is very much interest in sex, else he would not spend more money on **** sites.

Try to be positive think calmly and use ur bread and create butter from it to get the Jam out of your hubby...

Finally EAT ALL TOGETHER Enzoi life.!

 

Shilpama, I wanted to ask you something if you don't mind. sorry if i'm hijacking this thread but i think we are all here to learn and become better persons.
I am in a similar place in my marriage where there is no love and compatibility. And i am also trying to conceive a child. My main concern is that my negativity and frustration towards my husband is not letting me conceive. Even I am not the one who wants to or can venture into a new relationship. I have kind of accepted that this is my life. But how did you conceive with this situation? I mean sex and love is needed right?

 

dear bread butter jam,
your situation is exactly like mine minus the sex thing. my question to you is did ur husband change as a person. did he start feeling empathetic?