Hello everyone, I am a 28 yr old woman married for the last 3.5 yrs and have a kid of 2 yrs old. i live with my husband and kid in a foreign country where no one speaks english and we dont know the local language so it is quite a struggle at times. we both r working full time and send our kid to the daycare. my husband has a terrible temper, on 3-4 occasions when we were arguing , he suddenly came to hit me. on 2 occasions he tried to hit but because of my defense and his restrain then stopped in the mid-way. but on 2 occaisons he hit me on the head, albeit it did not cause any significant pain or injury but he did hit me with anger. there was a lot of anger in him at tht time , though i know he used less force because if he had just let himself loose he wud hv hurt me badly. my question is - is this domestic violence? because i ws not hurt to hv any proof of injury but i know he is capable of causing severe damage. is this the way it begins for women who r physically battered? do usually men lash out at their wives when they r angry- is this normal? my husband tells me tht the only reason he went to tht extent is becuase i induced him or provoked him or because i did something wrong. is this true- are women who r abused responsible for bringing on themselves this kind of mistreatment? if i disagree/argue, choose to differ or choose not to obey/agree, or if i say something in anger or frustration ( i too as an human being get angry at times)- does this mean that my husband can express his anger by hitting me. he also uses abusive language and threatens me. this happens on a monthly basis, although the physical abuse has started from the last four months. my husband hs seen his mother being severely physically abused by his fatehr, he too as child ws physically beaten by his father. he grew up in a very angry, violent ( due to his father) family environment, is this the reason for his behaviour? his sister suffers from clinical depression and psychosis. cud he be suffering from depression too? he grew up amidst a lot of financial struggle. and now he has the entire responsibility of supporting his parents, his sister and younger brother plus he has also to think abt me and our kid. we r leading extreemely stressful lives- with demanding jobs, no help with housework, with a kid and with no support system. is this because of stress? wht shd i do? am i overreactign? do such men change/improve? i dont want to be a silent sufferer of domestic abuse. plz give advise.