is this common?

i dont know if this is common with indian parents. Let me provide details. i have been married for more than 9 years now. i havent taken any money from my parents for wedding or for anything else. even i managed to take care of my education with scholorships , charitable trusts. I helped my brother complete his education by funding all his fees. i brought flat and i tranferred to their name before marriage. i live in USA. there were many occasions when i needed help but my parents refuse to come. They came last time when my daughter was born 5 years back and i paid for everything, thier site seeing , shopping , travel etc. After that they never came back.

Recently my brother also moved to USA. This year again i had some medical things going on and needed somebodys help. I asked my parents and told them i can book return ticket from my brothers place so they can visit him before going back to india. They agreed but since the day they arrive here they want to go to my brothers place. Before booking tickets i had told them i will need help untill jan end and then they can go to my brothers place. But everyday they ask when they can goto brothers place. They dont even think twice that i had invited them for a reason and i needed some help. This time also i took care of all the expenses. They dont really care of anything else except wanting to visit my brother and his kids specially their grandson. It feels like i have kept them in prison. Everyday i get to hear that this is not their place so they dont enjoy here. Their sons home is their home so they would love to go there. But they dont mind taking costly gifts from me or my husband. My mom asked for new smart phone. i offered my used iphone she refused to take. so i brought new smart phone for her. When it time for them to gift something its always my brother and his wife. Anything from costly sarees to gold they offer it to my brother and his family. They even openly says that whatever given to their sons family remains in family and whatever given to me goes out of family. probably thats why they dont offer me anything.
is this normal with indian parents? i am so fedup right now. i would really appriciate some help but im thinking to send them to their sons home early. It hurts to hear my family , their family crap everyday.
is this normal? is this how girls parents behave with married daughters? or its just me?

 

i dont think DH is making them uncomfortable. may be this bacground help. my dad has brothers and none of them have son. everybody have daughrers so my dads brothers sometimes go and live with their daughters. Both my mom and dad make fun of them that they are staying with guests. My parents tell them to come and stay with them instead of living with daughters because according to them brother is family but married daughters are not. Well, i use to hear this for last couple of years from my cousins but i didnt knew their feelings are so strong.

regarding gifts, i haven't received anything since wedding. however they do buy gold earrings and gold necklace when my daughter was born.

i think i know what i need to do now. thanks for reply.