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Discussion in 'Married Life' started by indubalram, May 5, 2022.

  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    OK new horse to beat. I've been wanting to ask all this since the thread started.

    Watch 40 seconds of the video from 7:00 to 7:40.



    The FIL reprimands the DIL for wearing tight clothes when going out. Is it acceptable for the FIL to say such a thing to DIL?

    He asks her "Would you like it if guys make comments about your dress?" I was like: "Does she like it that FIL is making such a personal comment to her?"

    And the thing that makes me want to throw up is that after putting on that jacket or coat to cover the tight dress, she smiles pleasantly and reminds him about medicines and that the lunch has been cooked. She actually says "Good Day Papaji" before leaving. :yikes:

    I must be old-fashioned. I cannot imagine a FIL making such a comment to a DIL. It means he observed how tight her clothes are. :facepalm: :facepalm:

    If he absolutely must convey that message about her allegedly tight clothes or "where is the dupatta?" to the DIL, he can ask his wife or if she is dead, tell the son.

    In my books, and I already said I am old-fashioned, a FIL does not make such comments to a DIL. :nono: Period. Any arguments like he said it for her welfare, she should treat it like a comment from her father... all are irrelevant.

    Like my dear friend from long ago would have said, "If my FIL made such a comment, I would jump in a well and die of embarrassment."

    It is one thing for FIL to say to DIL, "Why are you wasting time/ money / food?" "Why is breakfast late?" Why is my coffee cold?" "Why going for so many days to your mom's house?" "Why do you want to do job?" "Why are you shouting at kid?" Those are controlling, domineering etc. A comment on the tightness of her clothing is just not done.
     
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  2. chanchitra

    chanchitra Platinum IL'ite

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    It's not appropriate.
    FIL is not supposed to talk about her dress tightness.
    I would be embarrassed
     
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    sandhya2020 Silver IL'ite

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    Are you serious?
    Then it is something that needs to be called out and not somehtignt o feel grateful for.

    I'm sure you are aware that historically men did not allow women to go to school, or work, or own property.


    What does that have to do with the video? The video is about husband-wife relationship or life of a married woman.

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    Anyway, I dont want to discuss this further. We have both stated our points, and I feel some debates serve no other purpose than to generate more traffic for the site.
     

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