I got married 1 year back. For the first 9 months my husband was out of town (3 hours away) 5 days a week. He came back here for only weekends. Then he was here full time for 2 months. Then from the next month onwards he went 15 days out of 1 month to international travel. He is in IT industry. Now he is gone on international tour for 3 months. So for the past 1 year he was here barely 35-40% of the time. Whenever i say take me with you, he says I will TRY, but he never does anything. Even my in-laws are like, what will he do, its his job. Its ok. Its ok. Look at so-and-so , he is away alternate months, look at so-and-so , her husband is away since so many months. I am like WTF ?!?!! Let them deal with their marriage. Plus they have KIDS. In school. Thats why they are not going. I am NEWLY MARRIED!! Is so much of long distance marriage normal?? He was not here for our 1 month anniversary, or 1 year anniversary. I am frustrated since i stay with in-laws, i don't know what to do. I have a job and am away from home 12 hours a day, but i'm still freaking FRUSTRATED. I gave my husband an ultimatum, if we are not together for our 1st anniversary, i don't know our future. He WANTS to stay together but is sort of encouraged by his parents that all this is normal. What should i do ?? Why doesn't he take me with him?