After not speaking for 6 years, i am wondering if it is possible to reconcile my differences with my jethani....i have refused any contact with her over the last few years because of how she treated me when i first got married and her constant lies to mil & fil. I have just found out she has had quite a serious operation and spent quite a considerable time in hospital. I don't know what to do - she has got 3 young children and my husband only has 1 brother. Do you think i should phone her? After a big family argument 6 years ago I have refused to speak or visit her as I was so hurt and now am worried if something happens to her i'll never be able to resolve those differences. But i'm still afraid if she carries on with her normal behaviour will i be able to cope as I didn't 6 years ago.