this happened around 3 weeks ago or so. I even wrote a thread titled letting it go. But for some reason my issues are far from gone. I still find myself upset, angry and above all in an unbelievable state regarding my husband's behaviour. My dad has a house in our village and my dad's sister by crooked means changed the property tax under her name. So far, me and my husband have tried multiple ways to get it changed back but it isnt working. Finally we decided to go to their house and ask them directly to write a NOC about the same. A little background - my dad's sister is too angry and upset with me specially since they wanted me to marry their younger son but it didnt happen and i didnt even invite them to my wedding. But now they act as if its alright. But i know they are very angry and i told the same to my husband but he says its all in the past let me try and get the relation back. In in addition to this, my aunt's husband says things like he wants me to beg him on my knees to come back to my house or to ask his help and until then he won't come back to help me. To this my husband asks me to ignore. This uncle was the one who kept talking things like a guy should only talk so i should not talk. Or that i am the one causing trouble and all those nonsense talks. And they have put another condition that until my dad's elder brother gives his NOC stating that he has no issues if my dad's house is tranferred under mom's name, they won't help us in changing the name on the property tax receipt. Also for some crazy reason my husband when trying to make them understand any probems, uses me as his example and brings out my shortcomings when talking to them like...you know my wife takes out her frustation on our kids or that she sometimes is scatter brained like that. Really? You will go and talk all that to those stupid people who already are very angry and upset with me and to top it all off, you would talk something negative like this to them? Now i am very upset with my husband for 1) trying to bring me up as examples when trying to tlak to them 2) For not asking them to shut up when they say things like keep quite or dont talk when guys are talking or you donot know how to behave amongst elders So i spoke to my husband and told him that what he did hurts me a lot and that he should have spoken up. For that he is saying who asked you to interfere. When i am talking you should not talk with them since you know the kind of persons they are. Further, when i asked him to stop quoting me as examples, he is telling me that since i shamelessly joked with them, i shouldnt have a problem with this. He was the one who wanted to start the relation again and maintain it. Since he took me there, i did what i could by talking normally to them and when they tried to joke, i responded too. And those jokes were on me and about me that even my husband was laughing with them. But i took them in stride. Now he calls me shameless? and tells me that if need arises, he would keep quoting my behaviour or other stuff like that? And to top it off, my dad's own elder brother is another nut case. He came to my house after my dad died and bad mouthed my dad and said things like he did some bad things in his life so he departed so early. And even when he had to do my dad's thithi, he was passing comments like i am doing this for timepass. I hate my brother and stuff. Now my husband and my dad's cousin brother (who is helping us sort these issues) are telling me that i should forget what all nonsense these guys speak to get back my dad's house. really. So i should ignore the slights and rude comments and all their nonsense stuff just to get back property? Is my self respect a joke or should it mean nothing if it comes ot property? And more than anything, i feel my husband has let me down a lot. I know he is in my village and trying to sort issues for me. But even so, should i just let him talk whatever he wants about me to get back the property? Why can't i just raise a complaint with the district collector about this? He says it will break the relations. Who care about these relations? They are just waiting to bad mouth me and spread rumours about me. He doesnt want me to do that also. I asked him to stop involving me in these talks when he talks to my relatives and he says, no. It is not possible. So basically, i should go back to these people's houses. Keep a poker face and not indulge in small talk to ease the situation. Allow my husband to pass snide comments as examples whenever he wants ot make them understand any situation. And top it all off, i should go begging to people to get my dad's property under my mom's name when it should be my right. And not complain about this to collector or any one else until my husband decides it the right time coz until then he wants to see if the relations are worth saving. I feel my self repect is in shreds now. Or is it imagination and i am just making a mountian out of a mole?