One of my relative is in love with a Bihari(JHA)guy settled in Kolkatta. Recently the parents met and had a talk. The guys dad insisted that he wants the wedding in their style. We are South Indians. The girls father was not ready for it but then finally had to give in for the sake of the daughter. The guys dad said that he doesn't need any dowry but according to their custom the girls family has to take care of all the wedding expenses and he demanded 35 lakhs for the wedding expenses. i have a few questions here. These people are settled permanently in Kolkatta. So please tell me if any of the below is true for a Bihari or a Kolkata wedding. 1. I have heard in the north that the guys family takes care of the wedding expenses. But here they say the girls family does it. Is it true? 2. Isn't 35 lakhs too much just for a wedding? We really don't know and haven't seen a Bihari wedding. Will it cost so much for the wedding? How much does an average Bihari wedding cost? 3. When the guys dad demanded 30L, it seems that the guy shouted at his dad saying that he shouldn't demand so much. What do u think about this? Some say the guy must have genuinely done it but I feel that the guy was putting up a drama with his dad. The guy lives with his parents so don't u think they must have discussed all this even before the girls family went to meet them. 4. In our culture the guy and his family needs to come and see the girl and the girl doesn't go to her in laws place before the wedding but here these people said that according to their culture the girl and her family needs to come to the guys home first. Is this true. We really don't know anything about this hence these doubts. 5. When the girls family asked about an engagement they said in their culture they don't do engagements, it's directly the wedding. Is this true? from the above I really feel the guy and his family are not genuine and all they need is the girls money... What do u all feel?