It's very difficult to manage 12 hours job and do cooking as well. Some of my friends are suffering so much, some of them work in very hectic corporate jobs, sending hard earned money to in-laws from joint account, and also forced to do cooking and not allowed to keep maid at home. Just look at the positive side of your marriage and don't get into cooking unless you are sure you can handle it... If you want to cook something nice for yourself and husband , you can do it on special occasions by declaring to him beforehand , and serve him directly, without giving chance to MIL to interfere. Try to do these on festivals/holidays, in full view of your husband, before MIL gets a chance to spoil your plans. Involve your husband, by asking his suggestions on taste/spice etc On those occasions, make some special dishes that he will remember rather than getting into everyday cooking as a full time responsibility . If you get into full time cooking , you won't be able to handle a hectic career and your job will suffer a lot, as well as your health, fertility everything will go for a toss. The tomato rice incident was very bad, and surely your MIL doesn't have good intentions. But do not think your husband will think you can't do anything. I'm sure he admires you enough for how hard you work in your career, and it will benefit him only right? In the initial years of marriage, avoid confronting MIL directly , instead once you are settled into career and have more free time, you can start getting involved in cooking more.