im just seeing a trend of many of my classmates, friends , and few ladies in my extended family circle opting to get married to NRIs..( US, Australia, New Zealand, Germany , Canada etc).. Even if it requires them to make adjustments and compromises in their career.. I'm born n brought up in India and settled here.. When I asked each of them the reason for opting to marry NRI, I mean apart from money factor ( they would have got good alliance from guys residing in India with good salary also ) , They said that they want to live abroad so that they won't have interference of in laws.. And they said that they have seen the pains and troubles of living in joint family setup India from other known people so want to be away from that..they are ok with elders just visiting once a while and managing their home, family life, household responsibilities, kids, childcare etc on their own.. Was wondering if there is any truth to what they are saying? I mean, my friend who lives abroad got a good job there after a small career break post marriage..I asked just asked her why she married NRI guy..,she said she has total freedom there to wear what she likes, attend any late night parties, drink alcohol, hang on with whom ever she wants, plan impromptu vacations, have fun with husband and friends....she wants to wait for a few years to try for kids, if she was in India everyone would have nagged her regarding TTC plans, she is well away from all that..she said that when she briefly stayed with in laws for a month she experienced joint family setup and is so grateful that her husband got foreign opportunity now they are going to get citizenship also shortly.. She is happy that she doesn't have to stay with n laws, cook for them, dress traditionally, entertain guests, adjust with them, compromise on privacy etc.. One more older relative has 4 SILs in India..she said they are very interfering in nature , and she just makes a Skype call to each of them once a week, and a courtesy visit to India for two weeks once a year.. She says she is damn lucky she doesn't have to live in India , as she does not get along well with her MIL..her MIL is very elderly and very ill...and being looked after by SILs who are staying in nearby locations..she says , as the only DIL of the family, she would have been forced to be a full time nurse and caretaker for her MIL had she been in India..she keeps herself busy with her career and kids education and uses that as a reason not to come to India much or involve much in family matters or elderly care..even in case of emergencies she doesn't bother helping out..her husband who is very attached to his wife is very supportive of everything she does.. Neither can anyone expect her to take her MIL to the US as her MIL's frail health doesn't allow for long travels.... I don't judge any of them..all have right to live their life...I'm not all concerned about their personal matters.. Recently one of my relative was advising me to somehow try to go and try to settle abroad and not to settle in India ...I never gave a thought as I'm used to Indian culture and I never longed for abroad culture..Anyways I'm settled in India only....she was talking to me generally as a well wisher that's all...but her words surely made me to think.. I just want to get a clearer perspective on this...do married ladies living and settled abroad really escape from the interference of in laws and get more freedom than married ladies settled in India? Or is this a misconception? Kindly no harsh or judgemental replies please...I'm asking as general question only, as a woman who dint experience life abroad..