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Is marriage important?

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by winner09, Jun 17, 2010.

  1. winner09

    winner09 New IL'ite

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    Hello all

    These days some questions are striking my mind again n again and i myself couldn't find precise answers for the same.

    The questions are

    1.The underlying fact of life is that everbody should lead a happy life.
    So why is that we ladies have to leave a happy place(our home) and go somewhere where our happiness is been thrown down(in-laws place)?

    2.Our parents are providing best education, spending large amount of money for marriage and for every other future events that comes our way while the parents of the guy has almost nothing to spend except for their son's education.So, in what way our love for our parents is less dignifiable than a son's love for his parents?

    3.Now-a-days most men are highly educated and technically developed
    What is the use of being educated when it cannot enlighten the brains of males who illtreat their life partners?

    and finally

    4.Is marriage important?


    Thanks,
    winner.
     
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  2. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    I need to change my signature to:
    Its not just Men! :party

    Women cause issues in marriage too.

    What do you mean by "importance of marriage?" - No one needs to be sitting in a "forced marriage".
     
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  3. asuitablegirl

    asuitablegirl Gold IL'ite

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    1. Personally, I left a happy place to go to a happy place. You don't HAVE to live with your inlaws. I live in a nuclear family with just my dh (and someday our kids). I was happy to get married to him and happy to live together. I don't compare my home now to my home before I got married... two different times of my life, two different stories.

    2. Only in Indian society (or other male dominated societies) would this issue come up. I don't think a woman's love for her parents is "less dignafiable" than a man's love for parents. And I don't think people should go around comparing each other's love for parnets like it's some contest who can love parent's the most. Everyone should love how they want and mind their own business.

    3. Textbook learning does not always mean a person will be a kind and gentle soul. Being a doctor, engineer, or computer techie doesn't make you a good husband or wife. Rather, a good person, no matter what his education level, usually makes the best spouse.

    4. I think marriage is important if that's the path you want in life. If you don't want to get married, you don't have to. But if you do want to be married, well then yes, marriage is important because it's a seroius committment. It is also the gateway to many other important things in life like having children. It all depends on whose rules you play by. If you play on your own terms, you could be a 50 year old woman with a live in boyfriend who choses to adopt a child. Or if you play by societies rules, you get married in 20's, then have children, etc etc.

    The thing is, marriage should be a happy experience in one's life. If it isn't, then something's wrong!
     
  4. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    I have same question as you have in point 3. These days women are so well educated, smart otherwise, why cannot they understand how to manage issues? why does education bring in adamanance and arrogance in some? And some feel its confidence...

    Your post looked as if you are having some bitter corner for men in general..Marriage is a two way street . However some of your questions or concerns are valid from point of introspection

    Your question 1 why ladies have to go to some place, not all ladies live in joint family, not all ladies have in laws problems but still marriage does not rock....and in laws are for both sets and not juts woman, there are marriages where women are influenced by their parents and marriage is broken, so can a guy say that the girl married and only she got the set of in laws problems?

    Question 2 is legitimate, whether husband or wife, if there is a need to help parents or wish then it should be honored .. But one cannot be reckless in that, marriage is a institution which has its own rules , whether we like it or not. There are many things in life which we dont like, there are laws which so many hate, but what can one do

     
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  5. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    How about starting a sub forum " Indus Men forum" ?:rotfl

     
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  6. 1janavi

    1janavi Bronze IL'ite

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    winner09,

    Is your question
    do we need the typical girl/guy relationship in our lives

    If it is then I believe its an yes.
    Everyone has a need to have "the special one" in our lives.
    Whether that need is being met or not is a different thing.
    But every humanbeing seeks it atleast once it their life so definitely it is important in our lives
     
  7. Spiderman1

    Spiderman1 Gold IL'ite

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    Oye Tridev - you went from Ganesha and Ram (Gods) to Goddess now in your avatar? LOL!
     
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  8. mithy232

    mithy232 Silver IL'ite

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    Winner,

    You will know the importance of marriage when you meet your right man. All your questions will vanish in seconds.

    Chillout!
     
  9. gjaya

    gjaya Silver IL'ite

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    yeah...LOL I had the same question as Spidey, Tridev?? & spidey btw has already is making plans of starting a "family friendly site for men- indusmen.com" LOL.:rotfl

    oops, sorry for digression...:hide:
     
  10. Tridev

    Tridev Silver IL'ite

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    Yes, time to change some of the preferences :thumbsup

     

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