I do agree to everything you listed in this and also to other's comments. Me and my friends discuss the same topic somedays and do agree that an individual should be allowed to make a choice about their career post marriage and shouldn't be dictated by their in-laws. And it's important for every individual whether be it a working guy or gal to keep a healthy balance between career and home responsibilities. I see women in west have their career even after having to take care of 5 kids at home. Their daily chores gets divided between them and their husband. I have came across examples of woman going for higher education/PhD's even in their 40's and 50's. Yes life is somewhat easier in US compared to India, but main thing to learn is how they balance everything. One of my best friends in India became CA. She got so much into studies to clear the exams that she fell sick during exams, but didn't stop and cleared it. Later she fell in love with a guy and he supported her to work initially. However after marriage, her in-laws denied her for working. Whenever we meet, she cries that she is not getting to live her dreams. Another friend also did CA, got married into a super big joint family. Got freedom to work, but she says she has to work and then come home and take care of her big family. She doesn't even get a chance to talk to her own parents even once a week. Growing up I always wanted to become an engineer and my parents were not in a financial condition where me and my bro both could study engineering. My dad being the only earning member in the family, he could either pay for his fees or mine. He started working on 3 jobs everyday (from 8am-10pm) except Sunday, so I could achieve my dreams. Later I wanted to come to US and do masters here. He said he cannot afford that due to high fees and I did see tears in his eyes since he cannot help me with this dream of mine. I myself worked for 3 years, saved the money to achieve my dream. Even though I have the potential to handle both house and work and I have been doing it for years now living alone, guy I was going to get married to here in US wanted me to give up my career as being a woman I have to support his joint family with cooking and taking care of their houses while he works on his dream job. I have seen woman sitting with babies in class since they want to study and move ahead in life. So after coming across such examples, I do believe that we too can make it work.