Of late, I've been hearing a lot of stories about married women, who had to sacrifice their careers after marriage. Unfortunately this trend is only for the women, and not for the men. I mean, no men say they had to make extra effort after marriage for their career, or had to lose it altogether to keep the marriage going. But this is in fact a bitter truth for many women. Either they had to push so hard to balance work and home, so that they could continue their career. Or, they had to give up their career for good. Understood, that the society believes only a woman could provide for the emotional needs of the family. Specially the nurturing of a mother is vital in every child's growing up. Therefore, the society asks, rather forces the women to quit their career. For them a woman's primary responsibility is her home, career comes only after that. Accepted, if it is the norm across all families. So, that no one spends extra on women's education. Perhaps, after secondary school (that's reasonable education for survival), girls could focus on what a home-maker needs for life. Such as cookery, interior décor, teaching skills (for kids), sawing, child care, basic nursing etc..etc... There are so much areas, which could ease a home maker's life. After all, if you see yourself staying at home down the line, and nurturing the family full time, learning such skills gives more power to you. What irks me is the girls' extra ordinary efforts in excelling their studies from primary schools. Notably girls study so hard and earn better credits compared to boys at Schools and colleges. Despite of the family hardships, many girls go for higher education, making their parents indebted for life... They often study seriously without wasting not even a single day of their youth life with great ambitions. Now that, they chose to enter marriage market, and nod their heads when the groom's family demands them to stay at home. You may argue, like education is an asset and there is no loss even if you don't work. I know, but why study Engineering and IT to ultimately end up working full time at your home/kitchen? And Professional life is not easy either. It takes another level of sacrifice for women. But it also gives you self confidence and independence and a sense of achievement altogether with a social life. And I always believe we studied so hard back then to get all the above with a pay ch. Sooner or later, we all will be the guides to our children, specially the we will become the role models to our daughters. Though our mothers stayed at home back then, they were happy and confident and were very smart role models for us. We strived so hard in life by looking at our mothers mostly. It is because they did not lose anything behind when they entered marriage. They did not feel like sacrificing their lives for us. They just lived their lives!!! Now that, ladies, its time for you to think whether you are that role model that your daughter wants to follow? You must teach and train your young daughters to plan their future. No one should feel as if they have lost their life or sacrificed it or wasted it at the end of the day. It doesn't mean a successful life is problem free. What matters is how you handle it, and solve it successfully without succumb to it. Are you happy, confident, successful in your life? Are you the one your daughter aspires to become in life? She doesn't have to copy you, but can always follow you. If yes, no matter what you do... it means you are doing a great job. My mom is a successful home-maker!!! If not, time to think about it, and change as needed. More power to all the ladies here!!!