Dear Nithya I was sailing in the same boat 5 years ago. My husband never told about his salary, savings, bonus etc. He didnt tell me how much he sent to his parents every month or how much bank balance we had. He just told that we have a big debt and have to be frugal. He used to keep a long face if I ask for dress, kitchen articles, eat out or anything. I totally sacrificed all my desires and put up with everything. then I couldnt take it anymore and sat and reasoned with him saying that "if its your responsibility to send huge amounts of money to your parents, its your responsibility keep your wife and son happy too. you have to balance it out or else u will lose me forever"... then he sort of slowly reduced sending money and started to save and buy stuff for us. its communication at the end, maybe unintentionally u are giving an impression that you are a miser too like him or he is assuming that himself. talk it out Also try to earn money yourself. since u are in California, call Indian Recruiting companies and tell u can work for cash as their HR... they prefer H4 girls..