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Is it suggestable to get divided from family after marriage pls Help

Discussion in 'Married Life' started by Mahi, Jun 26, 2007.

  1. Mahi

    Mahi Guest

    hi,

    I am married since 2 years. Although my MIL and DIL are not rude to me, they irritate me by conversing indirectly about my everyday deeds...

    I am fed up and want to stay away from them.....but my hubby is too much responsibility concious and dont want make a new house for me as he is the only son and he has to take care of them.

    but I am not at all happy staying with them..
    what should I do?

    Pls help
     
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  2. Sashmitaa

    Sashmitaa Senior IL'ite

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    Dear Mahi,

    Patiently go thru all our MIL threads and u wil know how to tackle those kind of situations. Just let it go thru other ear whatever comment they pass. Dont take it to heart.

    Warm wishes
    Lakshmi
     
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  3. Mahi

    Mahi Guest

    Thanks lakshmi.

    I think u r true as everyone whomever I approached are giving the same suggestion.:goodidea: my hubby is too good to me. He supports me a lot at home.
    Might be I am very sensitive.

    I think I should develop some skills to tackle them.
     
  4. Padmash

    Padmash Platinum IL'ite

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    hi Mahi,

    u r lucky ur husband cares for u and supports u. see in forum ladies are going through such critical situation not only in india but abroad compare to them u r very lucky. forget mil and sil it is same story everywhere u can't make them happy and it's just 2yrs of marriage don't think to shift. he is only son he must care for his parents and u too. husband is supporting means no problem, ur sil will get married and go mil after 5,6 yrs will be on ur side this is short term usual problem, everyone passes through this situation very few don't.
    be happy and enjoy ur husband's company .

    bye
    padma
     
  5. Sriniketan

    Sriniketan IL Hall of Fame

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    Hi Mahi,
    Relax. Don't get these things get into your mind. These are common things where everybody got experienced in their early years of marriage. From your post it seems that your husband is a caring and loving person. Think of those who are at disadvantage. These are like passing clouds.
    Be patient and divert your attention to other things who like. If you are upset, meditate and keep your mind calm and think. Don't take any decisions when you are emotional.
    Take care
    Sriniketan
     
  6. pkavitha

    pkavitha New IL'ite

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    Hi,

    Imagine after 20 years, your daughter in law thinks in this way when you have only one son.

    If you will be ready to accept your daughter in law's view that time, then your view at this time is also right
     
  7. Sobhi

    Sobhi Senior IL'ite

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    Hello

    Iam a new member to Indus Ladies. Even I have been married for just 2 years now.

    As most of them have mentioned, since your husband is caring and loving, rest of the things should not matter much.
    I personally know that this is easier said than done. But I have overcome 70% of this difficult period and am able to control my emotions and reactions.

    with me being intially upset about these things, both me and my husband were worried and he was feeling helpless as he was not able to help me out in this situation.

    The most improtant thing is life is happiness and peace. So always try to be at peace and try to spend time with your husband doing things you like than to worry about these things.

    luv
    shobha
     
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