is it possible to live with such a man?

why he doesnt want to go out? is it because hehas to drive? or did he visit those places already? or is it about he has to spend money?? what are his reasons for not going out with you?? (As you said he goes out with this friends but not with you!!)

Even before all the above questions...could you explain how he behaves at home? i.e after he comes back from work, does he start a conversation? or do you start asking him how was his day at work? does he share info about hsi work/colleagues/friends/family?? how is the basic communication b/w both of you...do both of you see each other as FUN to be aroudn with??

 

Hi

Its really sad. , I can understand coz my husband is pretty much the same. All I can say is to have a group of your own, female friends with whom you can hangout during the weekend, Once he sees you enjoying on ur own, he would realise it on its own, its a male psychology. Since ur working, making friends would be easy. believe me, its more fun shopping with a gang of girls than a husband who cribs on everything u try or buy:thumbsup

 

How about you guys try to team up with anyof your friends families or neighbours and go out ?? did you try that?

If he has this driving phobia, we cant push him to do something he is terrified about. He has to eventually come out of it by himself. Reg. your kid not learning anything, I guess you can come up with some indoor games related to a 11 yr old and ask both the son and the father to play like chess or scrabble or something that would actually sharpen the thinking skills. At the age of 11 I am sure kids learn a lot at school so dont fret it too much. By the way do you drive??? If not why not start taking driving lessons? who knows might be you can try to take your kid around for a while or ask your husband whether he would be interested to sit by your side when you are driving.

Does your husband discuss and talk with your kid? like what the kid does at school etc? ask your husband and son to go out for a walk, encourage them to spend more time and you take off from this whole stressful thing.

Are you working? Am sure there would be lot of moms who would want to meet up and have some time togehter, just look for them around your neighbour hood and at your work place. If not start enrollng yourself and the kid for some summer activities where you can meet up new friends and your son too can make some friends.

 

Dear

When we know we dont see a change in this area of your husbands behaviour, and its been around 11+ years??? BEST thing to is make your own circle rather than trying to change him, that way you wont feel exhausted as your energy wouldnt be spent on changing him, but rather spent in making you happy.

Yes it feels sad when you see every family goes out but not yours! however every family has their own story not all families have similar issues. So always look at the bright side.

How about might be book a trip to very neary by city like in 100miles or so and you say lets take a bus or a train and travel ...just fun trip...and take only 1 bag so that its not too much load to carry...we can figure out ways..however at the same time you shouldnt feel disappointed the moment it fails. Might be he will crack one day so keep yourself busy which would help you in looking at your issue with a diff. perspective and come up with ideas everytime. might be if your son asks his dad lets go..he might!!! so take one step at a time. No pushing and no stressing. Chill dear! you sure would find a way to fix this!

 

hi
some men feel that having female tagging along (even if it is their wife ) is too much of a responsibility on them. so they try avoid taking them with them. it is just that they cannot handle that. they will often give flimsy reason for not going out with their wives. it is a feeling they have developed in their childhood so it becomes difficult even for them to overcome. any way try going out with your friends which might be much more fun filled just as komala and sri said.