Is it okay if husband enjoys while wife is on bed rest during pregnancy ?

My best friend is pregnant with her first child. Had some cervical stitch and is advised complete bed rest. She wanted to go to parents place but doctor advised not to move out of bed leave alone traveling. So her mom came to help. Her mom is bit old fashioned is not much into movies and fun. She does more of pooja and meditation while my friend is not too much into pooja and all and yeah loves watching movies...she does download/or watched from cds but can't even move out of bed. Her husband is a fine person..not bad...but he is plays with his friends either cricket/comp games on weekends. (Before her pregnancy they were quite out going couple....used to watch lots of movies ). She feels alone frustrated at home with no one to talk. She does talk to her mom but everytime she has to find common topics to talk. Yesterday being sunday she was expecting her husband to stay with her and watch movie together in lappy. But asusual he went to watch movie with his cousins. It pissed her off completely. She fought with him and he told...whats wrong in me enjoying when you can't accompany me. Her argument was when I can't even move out of bed you happily enjoy with friends without even giving a thought for me. Finally she cried and called me to talk...I felt bad for her. She said she is frustrated at home.. and she was saying if at all roles were revered she would rather prefer staying with her husband and enjoying with him than going out with friends and she did that it seems when her husband had some knee wound (Fracture i guess) . He was advised not to move for a month ....and she said "yeah i too have friends who invite me to party's and movies...If i wanted I would have gone. But I felt he might be bored at home so I didnt go " . I did feel bad for her frustration ...I gave all the advise blah blah blah...but this triggered thought in me...is it okay ?? She is not selfish..definitely not... I know her well..all she wanted is...in this special time that her husband should enjoy with her. Not go to outings and movies at every chance he gets. She says these movies will come again..these friends will call again..but this "1st pregnancy" of mine will never come...whats wrong in playing any random games or watching movies with me

 

Is it okay of husband enjoys while w ife is on bed rest during pregnancy ?

My best friend is pregnant. She had some cervical stitch so had to be on strict bed rest. Doctor asked her not to even move out of bed. Her mom is there to help her. Initially she wanted to travel to her moms place. She is working in a bank but is on maternity leave as of now . But since she is in strict bed rest she coud'nt so her mom came here. Her mom is more into pooja and meditation. While my friend is not much into it. She feels quite frustrated and bored at home. She does watch movies on laptop and browses...but she gets bored and can't do that entiiire day from morning to evening. Her husband is a nice person , but he goes to movies and outings with his friends and cousins every weekend or after office . They were quite outgoing couple before she got pregnant. She feels quite boored at home. She does talk to her mom but everytime she talks she has to find common topics to talk . This weekend too he went to play cricket with his cousins. She was left frustrated and bored at home entiire saturday and sunday. She confronted him when he came back saying how can you leave me soo bored at home (She complained numerous times , even tried talking in calmer manner) and enjoy with your friends. I wanted to watch movie with you or wanted to spend some time with you. He said whats wrong in me enjoying when you can't come with me. Her arguement was "even I have friends who invite me to movies but I didnt go when you were on bed rest (due to some leg fracture for 2 months i guess... he was on complete bed rest ... ) . I felt you will be bored at home . " No use. He still says the same that there is nothing wrong in enjoying without her. She is not possessive he went outings with his friends who were boys even before her pregnancy, but she used to involve in her own hobby classes (she learns cooking) whenever he is out. But now she is frustrated since she can't move out of bed and her husband enjoys as if its bachelor life for him (these are her words). Finally day before yesterday she got fed cried terribly and called me. I did give her advise let it go and asked her to call me whenever she is bored . But I felt bad for her. Why do husbands generally enjoy like bachelors watching movies ,planning outings while wife only bears ups and downs of pregnancy and still they call themselves as fathers ? I am not generalising. My husband was not like that . Not entiiirely atleast .

 

Re: Is it okay of husband enjoys while w ife is on bed rest during pregnancy ?

She is not jealous Indian Queen. She is just frustrated. Bored . She does read books and magazines too. But she is been doing reading -browsing-eating-watching movies 24X7 (Except time she sleeps ) past 1.5 months and she is bored. She says she wants someone to talk. Someone close to her. Who else other than husband can fill the gap ?

 

Re: Is it okay of husband enjoys while w ife is on bed rest during pregnancy ?

Yeah she does not nag. Its only during this pregnancy. Or else she does go to hobby classes and her office outings . She does ask him couple time . He sits with her not even for 1 hour it seems and again drama starts . Yeah she feels the same. Why should men have all the fun. She was bit feminist in her college days . So she vented out all her frustration (in form of gaalis ) on entire men fraternity . I said vent out if that makes you feel happy !!.