Is it OK to hide emails from wife?

sharing certain things with whomever is okay... but all details like even what you cooked sounds weird....

be cautious and alert...

you definietly need to talk to your DH about this and let him know how uncomfortable you are...

he is your husband... your life partner... it is your full right to share anything and everything with him.... but at the same time you need to make him understand that you are his wife and those are his family members... there needs to be a line drawn in the conversation...

are they married too... if so... do they also share the same kind of insane talks with each other.... or just trying to make use of this husband's habbit and make fun of it behind his back??

 

Everyday here at IL I come across stuff that makes me go all:spin :bonk :bowdown
Whatever happened to mango people, mango talks, mango thoughts, mango plans.

OP- is there anyway you could add yourself to the group and post in .

 

hi dimhere,

Creating a group among cousins/relatives is a normal thing, BUT discussing personal things without the knowledge of the spouse is not. Please let him know that you are aware of his group chats and his messages. Tell him that at least a part of your dialogues are bogus since he knows about all this beforehand. Ask him to limit his chats to only generic topics like sports,politics,religion etc and not about personal going ons' in the house. Be strict with him and ask him to concentrate on his office work and not to deviate from his goals. Family time and bonding is important, yes, but NOT to this extent. Else, like endlesshope suggested, ask him to add you to the group so things stay transparent. But all in all, the group chatting thing, is a real bad idea.

 

I am all for Ram Lakhan type siblings...but there is something very unsettling about a spouse penning down every little detail of his married life in a group email without his wifes consent/knowledge.

If I were you I would. Its impossible to be myself with my DH unless I clear the air.

 

IMO, you should confront him and ask him to mend his ways. its very disturbing to read that third parties get to know all details.

 

I would set up a bunch of e-mail accounts under different names - yahoo, gmail, hotmail whatever. Then I would send messages about husband's foibles to this fake group, with a real audience of one, namely me. Then one bright sunny morning, I would leave the laptop conveniently lying around, with the window open & wait for him to snoop & then 'confront' me. If he does not do this immediately, I would carry on with this until the husband cannot hold himself together any longer .....!

Aaah, that would so appeal to my :evil::evil: sense of humor!!!!!!
:rotfl:rotfl:rotfl:rotfl

 

whoa.. i never knew siblings/extended family could get 'so sticky close' .. disturbing.
i would confront in a very positive way, meaning not let emotions overrule while discussing and also express that i do not like every single detail out in the open and would like privacy in 'married ' life.

years before.. i did discuss similar things with my DH as mom-son was very close , and i would feel weird when she asked certain things.

he did understand and made sure he didnt speak 'everything' and that made things lot easier as i could freely communicate without worry of being under a spy cam .. lol

Do talk and sort things out.

Take Care.

 

Hi,,

If he would have repeated the conversation to his parents, its acceptable since we know stories of Mother Son bonding..Blah Blah..But this is too much..

If i were you.. I would ask him straight on his face and let him answer. If really he has some kind of explanation for it.. Lets hear it..

Hope u have the best of ur life! Take care.

 

I would be upset if I stumble across something like this.