HI Ladies, When we marry a guy, is it must to do serve or do seva for his family as a wife? so that she is loving him, otherwise not...because people in india thinking that, daughter in law means need to take over all duties of them at home even though she is smaller then all of that family. But she dont deserve priority when coming to respect in occasions and not deserve to have her sanity/own thoughts. My husband is guy who pushing me to live along with his parents from past 10 yrs and for next future years. coming to get respect and decision making priority, their parents emotions are key part but not me. when coming to duty of houses i am the responsibility. Now i am rejecting to stay with them, and he is thinking that i dont have love on him and i dont have any humanity now even after i lost my freedom to live my life as per my wish. whats the **** it is... i wrote this mail to him and sharing to u as well. so you people can understand my problems.Sorry i am lazy to type again. but i dont have any answer from him and he is stubborn on his decision. Finally i am loosing LOVE on him. Mail: " I am opening up my problems via mail because you can not balance your emotions while trying to tell directly. 1. Miads: all 9 maids worked under me complained about your mother sarcastic talks and over work assigning. i don't want to take burden cum stress like her in life by managing house hold works, career and kids on my shoulders. i too want to work like u on laptop and want to have relaxing time after working hours. i want to be live my happy life as per my feelings. I also faced problem that when i want to use my maid for something, but maid is taken over by your mother most of times for different works. I don't want to adjust in this case any more specially in case of our Live In maid, because its not easy to get live in maid. live in maid should be my personal maid and i dont want to any one else (except you) order her with out seeing her bandwidth and her mood. She will be occupied by my works, my kids works. no more orders from your parents and no sarcastic communication expecting. maids salary is my responsibility. she shouldn't be common maid for most of instances. 2. Kids food & my cooking plans: Your Mother is continuously trying to apply her thoughts by suggesting while i am in kitchen. if i do not obey her orders she is doing emotional blackmailing game(happens several time in your absence) . i don't want her to interpret my schedule in case of my kids food and cooking activities. 3. Personal space : I don't like to get interrupted when i am taking rest, doing breast feeding, exercising, relaxing with unnecessary callings/disturbances/entering into room. Its not applied for you but for every one else even nihanth. I like balcony hear and i want it to be my space from 6-7.30AM and evenings around 7-9PM. So please understand my privacy needs. 4. My things at home and arrangements: Some times not intentionally but accidently they are altering my things at home with out asking me. Like sofa covers stitching, removing baby height markings, applying ujala to kids wear then complaining on maids, sitting positions of sofa, decorations so on.. I am going to lose freedom to wear shorts and sexy weare, freedom to dance with kids in hall, freedom to play along with kids in water pool, freedom to do exercise at balcony, freedom to talk with my friends and mom with loud free voice, freedom to laugh loudly, freedom to teach current society handlings to kids, freedom to cook light food, freedom to sit with you and holding hands on sofa , freedom to do romance with my life partner anywhere which will cause to emotional distance forever, freedom to express /argue my feelings finally my sanity which cause to more thyroid levels. Finally i have to live like 60 yr old serious life even at age of 30s by controlling my emotions. i can understand your feelings and situation as a son. but i want you to know that you are keeping me in situation where i need to sacrifice my sanity because of those for next 20 yrs which i lost for past 10 yrs. i too did lot of hard work like u from child hood to reach my dream life. but that got wasted and only useful for earning not for enjoying because of freedom levels. more IMPORTANT, once after your parents reaching hear, i don't want to stop maids due their corona fears. inform them initially. i may take extra precautions or change of maids, but not stop. Dont stress out me in this case. "