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  1. poovai

    poovai Platinum IL'ite

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    It is general custom/believe to follow the rituals like lighting the lamp and decorating the idols with flowers at least few times a week, if you keep an altar in the house. Also, it is expected not to go near the altar if you are not 'pure', for example on the day you eat non-veg.

    Keeping an alter/idols are to have the positive energy in the house. Enchanting the mantras, performing pooja brings that positive energy and peaceful mind for those who worship full heatedly.

    No God will punish a human being for ignoring the altar/idols in their house. What would happen, if you ignore them? Nothing will happen, the positive vibrations and its effect will not be in the house.

    Few days ago, I read in one of the spiritual thread.....their baby crawls to the altar, raises his hand over his head and says 'Govinda, Govinda' when his dad is praying daily. Some of us were taught/raised like that since from childhood and it will stay with us till the end. It is hard to explain!
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Since I do not believe in the positive vibes of keeping idols, I have no issues about its absence for not maintaining it. However, what is the purpose of forcing others - non- believers to do certain customs by threatening if not negative vibes will come. This is what confusing.
     
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    poovai Platinum IL'ite

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    You are considering Hindu faith as threatening to you. But, it is some what like Chinese belief in good fortune decorations like Red Lanterns or hanging chimes to bring 'good luck' to their home.
     
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    padmaja909 Platinum IL'ite

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    @SGBV I can understand your confusion and dilemma. In few religions idol worship is not accepted. But in Hinduism we do follow idol worship. Normally the idols which are worshiped at home are not supposed to be larger than thumb. the way you and your husband follow your respective religions and respect each other's religions without interference is commendable. That level is attained only after lot of maturity, which sadly seems lacking in your MIL. I do hope you have come out of all your problems by now. I am sure they are not related to your pooja room and not performing rituals. They are just a coincidence. IMO God is not so small as to demand things from us and if not looked after properly will take revenge on us. we pray only for our peace and positive energy. After praying and keeping our problems at his feet, may it be any religion God, you must have felt very light and positive, as if burden has lifted from your heart. It gives satisfaction to us. But it doesn't mean he is looking for you to make mistake so that he can punish.
    Let your husband do pooja when he feels like it. That feeling has to come to concentrate in any pooja or prayer. Don't let your MIL interfere in your life with this excuse about pooja.

    ps @SGBV I wrote what I felt. I am sorry if unknowingly I said something which may have offended anyone.
     
  5. SGBV

    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    But those Chinese belief don't seem to threat us of bad luck or bad vibes if hanged in wrong places.

    Hearing from many Hindus about the negative vibes associated with improper maintenance and location of pooja room really threaten me. Although I personally don't get carried away with these thoughts, I wonder whether such harms could affect the believers? If so, my husband is one such believer and anything bad happens to him would mean very bad to me as well. That is why, I wanted some clarity on this.

    Thanks for your advice.
     
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    SGBV IL Hall of Fame

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    Thanks for the good message. I am also more related to God - although my faith is in a different form than yours. I know it is human tendency to seek a reason behind everything, specially when it comes to failures. I am not a supper woman, but an average one.

    The pictures and idols are not small. They are big enough to keep them in the temple as you suggested above.

    Look, I don't see any consistent response from the above posts by the Lites here, to completely wind up my fear about something which i am not familiar with.

    See, you are talking about the size of the idols. At my home, they are big enough to be kept in temple
    Someone else talked about the position. It is indeed not in the east, but in west.
    As per many the Pooja room shouldn't be at the bedroom, but it is in the bed room in our case
    Again, many of you suggested it is not right to enter the room during your period and impure days (meat days). Well, I do enter, as it is unavoidable in my case.

    And some of you say it is completely fine, as God is a supper force.

    I do agree with the general comment that the Pooja space should be cleaned. It has a scientific reason behind as any uncleaned place would contaminate the entire house. I shall make some arrangements to clean it by myself or via others.
    But again, what about my purity to touch and clean the idols there? Am I allowed to do the sewa as I am impure, a meat eater and I may get my period sometimes.

    Some people seem to be really careless about all this. They claim they do have a pooja room in their bed room, and they do visit temple during periods. Well, that is fine.
    But then, majority of you claim to have observed it otherwise. They say it for a reason.
    If entering pooja room with periods will cause no harm, then why many of us refrain from doing it?
    If placing pooja room at any given location is fine, then why everyone suggests a specific location and so keen on doing that?
    Again, same logic with handling the pooja space and idols with care. i.e no meat eating, head bath, purity even to clean or touch them.
    And all indirectly suggest a bad vibe or negative vibe if done otherwise.

    Now, as a complete stranger to this faith, all I get is confusions. My confusions shouldn't be termed as narrow mindedness, rather plain confusions.

    I am ready to touch and clean the pooja space, not because I have some faith but because I want my entire house to be clean. And also because I want to share my husband's work load and win his heart by helping him. But I don't want to completely restrict myself to a level of discomfort to help others. Eg: the cleaning time, date, eating habit etc..etc... may not go along with my schedule.

    That is why, I expect my husband to do all this. Whether he believes them or not. Regardless of the issues, it is important he takes responsibilities of maintaining his faith in a proper way. Through his acts, he is passing a very bad message to his children. Yes, he goes near the God only when he has problems, and leaves the God's space abandoned otherwise.
    He thinks human's bodily purity is more important to even go near the God, than their minds and souls.
    Such behavior (not just from my husband, but many) makes the others (non-believers) to have weird thoughts about this faith. That makes us fear and sometimes feel threatened too.

    Sorry if I have offended anyone from this post
     
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    I don't understand what the problem here is. One size does not fit all. Just because it is religion and faith does all followers have to follow the same?? Some may think it is god given so it is fine to go near god. Some may think it is not right. End of the day, whoever listens should use his/her commonsense to decide which could be best among the suggestion/advices. If nothing fits he/she should go according to her convenience.

    And just because people here say different views you get confused and get threatened. Just because your co worker initiated something you are worried so much? Though you say you are strong your posts say otherwise. One would not be worried so much on something they claim they don't have faith.
     
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    If you don't understand what the problem in this post, I would suggest you to read the OP clearly. It clearly explains the problem.

    God and faith as per your convenience is a new thing I learned today. In fact, this is where I differ from many of you. Perhaps, my faith and background never taught me to treat God at my convenience.

    I am not threatened or confused as the way you see me. Well, to some extend the advises indeed confuses me; thus I am a bit unconvinced about my decisions.

    Btw, who told you that I am worried so much over this? I am bit vigilant and have some concerns about negativeness around me (us) in any forms.
     
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    For those who read my post, just a clarification for what I meant convenience is:

    say: A person who works night may not be able to light lamp do pooja in the morning. So he/she can go according to her convenience.
    say: A person may be living in one room setup where he/she is forced to have pooja area in same room as he/she sleeps in. This too is according to his/her convenience.
     
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    ivlakshmi Platinum IL'ite

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    Presence of Pooja room would never bring bad luck in ideal situations.
    As said you should not enter the room during periods nor touch the idols. With out bath u can enter as long as u don't touch god.
    In our house pooja space is in kitchen so even though I don't take bath i would clean the room with out touching idols.
    If there are idols at home one needs to give naivedyam (food offering to god). We usually keep cooked rice daily and consume it. If that is not a possibility ask your hubby to offer half spoon of sugar or fruit or even a small kissmish. Ask him to consume it.
    Above all , as per vastu Pooja room need to be constructed only at certain part of house. If not it would cause ill effect. Suggest you to get the vastu checked with the specialist
     
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