Married for 9years love marriage. We belong to different religion. However my h pretend to be different and I feel cheated many times, that's another story, yet life was moving around kids and school run amid difference of opinions. Couple Of years ago I had a college reunion where I met my old friends, boozed and lil overboard with one of a male colllege mate (I puked and he held me and another female friend took a pic of me and him) with whom I was in touch only via Facebook and WhatsApp never ever spoke to Him During college days. Nothing more than that. My h knows that I went for reunion and don't know I boozed. Somehow my h has seen the pic, first thing I dint delete it, second thing I would have deleted and there started our issues. However I was apologising every day and that was a different story. Amid my h has contacted one of my college mate via LinkedIn who is staying abroad. He felt that am planning to elope with the guy in that pic so he approached my friend. All of a sudden this friend texted me much and asked me when I'll be free so that she can call me. She started preaching me without saying that she and my h had already communicated. She talked way too much and it went like argument. And whatever the texts between me and her was sent to my h(screenshots) and she put my h in conference in all the telephonic conversations between me nd her. Also she was playing games with me, she sent me an edited document which my h has sent her like how much he was rocking me in the cradle of happiness and how I breached the vows. And also my h has sent her that pic she told me. Also she called my mother and said that I'm Planning to elope with that guy , also she conveyed that my h is planning to apply for divorce and what's my mother's take in this situation, again she put my h in that call(she Dont had my mom mobile no, my h has given her) I asked my h why is he involving my friend in our family issues, what's in his mind let's talk it out and he Completely denied that he never communicated with my FRIEND. I told h that if she is involving in our family issues and talking to h then I have no choice left but to call her father to keep her stay away. Amid these she came to India where they both have met and she shared her local no to him(me and her went trivial and not in talking terms) one fine day she called me and said she wanted to meet me. I wasn't comfortable meeting her and discussing about anything. I denied and she has told my h that am flawed that's why I couldn't face her and he can very well go ahead with divorce proceedings . The entire thing was happening for like an year. She isn't talking to me but my h and she must be in touch still discussing about me or maintaining a cordial relationship. If I ask my h he denies everytime that he isn't in touch with her. He is safeguarding her that I should not trouble her. And whatever happens between me and H next second it goes to her, which Is pissing me. I didn't do any crime, me and H discussed many times that it was a mistake that I booze and apologised for the pic. Whatever between me and H we will work. I feel so much betrayed by my friend. They might be discussing about me. I would never keep secrets between me and her h without her knowing no matter what circumstances it is. I felt like she misguided my h by not standing by my side. She should be my friend first. Was my friend wrong In not being transparent with me with my family issues? She and my h belongs to same religion, that makes me feel left out. My h is type of person who lacks in individuality. Whenever I talk to my h it hits me hard how can they both communicate secretly about my personal stuffs and how he can send my personal pic to her be it whatever I did. And my h had no nerve to accept the fact that he is communicating with her. Regard the reunion and booze, it's not worth shattering a family to this extreme. I feel like her nose in my family is tearing me and H. Am I wrong here ? What my h did is normal and am I overthinking? More than the problem between me n h, her intervention and the aftermath is disturbing me extremely. Advise me pl.