Is Ema/cheating An Acceptable Way To Deal With A Crappy Spouse?

So far I have thought people would agree that the way to deal with an unfair/crappy/neglecting spouse is:
- Work it out with him/her
(Involves many ways counseling blah blah, work it out)
- If impossible to work it out - end the marriage

Assume for sake of this thread - spouse is neglectful, and uninterested to work it out.

Is EMA/cheating (incl or excl sex) an acceptable way to deal with an unfair spouse? What do you really think? (I think no, but I am piqued and alarmed by what folks these days think)

Is Wronging by cheating (outside the marriage) a way to deal with a spouse who is "wrong inside the marriage"? Or walk out of the wrong marriage first rather than ema?

 

I'd say divorce - if nothing else can work. But ema? Really interested to see if thats considered as "one of the" ways to deal with this. There are other threads but I am asking a direct pointed qn in this thread:

Is Wronging by cheating (outside the marriage) a way to deal with a spouse who is "wrong inside the marriage"? Or walk out of the wrong marriage first rather than ema?

 

Thanks ym, but can you answer this pls

 

^ wow, so if ema makes the marriage bearable then yes. Wow ok. Didnt expect it, but good to have a straight answer, thanks. I suppose its a you wronged me, I wronged you and one day when it blows up in the faces of two families (if other has a famly too), then its a "we are all messed up" kumbayah song (pity the kids if they also have to witness the repercussion).

And sometimes out of ema - one who feels more wronged (rightly or not), injures the ema spouse in anger, and then it turns into criminal case unfortunately.

I sincerely hope women (or men) dont try to make a marriage bearable via ema - will blow up badly in face one fine day.

 

@Rihana yes given & understood its not (always) planned. (Sometimes it can be).
But as the EMA relshp takes roots and develops, one has to catch oneself. Else its a gone case as it will proceed on and on to next levels.
Anyway - except in rare instances - EMA dont have happy ending. In a few cases, after the affair is found out - it can be DIVORCE and they "get married and live happily ever after".

In many cases - the guy too has a family or may choose to walk away at some point, and it is a huge mess. So "solace in EMA" can be fine and shortlived until the ensuing mess is bigger than the original mess to start with.

So blueprint is - if you want to cheat (to bear with the crappy marriage), cheat with an available unattached guy who will not run away after being found out. So you can ready the backup and then fire your H for his "wrong inside the marriage". And make sure you take care your H wont physically harm you after you give him the "news" and fire him from hubby post. Last thing anyone needs is anger escalating to harm.

Hmm how many can implement this pakka (even if unethical) blueprint lol