Is BLOOD thicker than ... LOVE n CARE ?

ILoveTulips · Mar 16, 2011

Dear Sensitive,

When I read this blog I had several feelings... You are the first adoptive parent that I am communicating in my life. Being married for 5 years and yearning for a kid for long time, I could understand how much joy that your son have brought to you and your DH....

Congratulations on getting the kid, I know how long the adoption process is!

I cant appreciate enough your warm heart of giving home for a child. Thats one thing that everyone here admire about you.

Another thing that impressed me is, when you said ,

I think that if he ever wanted to know about his biological parents, I would try to help him out in his quest
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It shows that you are not only a good Mom but also a nice person. Normally any woman would get insecured thinking about THAT moment, but you are willing to come forward to share his feelings... You are a great mother.... You(& your DH) and your son are lucky to have each other ...

God bless this beautiful family!

Loads of love and wishes,
ILT

senzzation · Mar 16, 2011

I'm overwhelmed by all your response. Thanks to you all for your good wishes and kind comments.

ILT, don't put me on a pedestal ... i'm a human being & have my insecurities too. But yes, i'll try to always be supportive towards my son's wishes.

Cheers,
Senzzation.

KuttimasAmma · Nov 4, 2011

Hi
As an adoptive mother, I have done soem extensive research and reading and am also part of a support group for parents of children adopted from India.
Must reads are: '20 things adopted kids wished their parents knew' and 'Talking to young children about adoption' .
Another book I have been passing around to friends is 'What is adoption', a well told book to for non-adopted kids to read and understand.
There is no question at all about whether to tell a child or not. You simply must make it part of your and your child's life from the get go.

senzzation · Jan 23, 2012

KuttimasAmma;bt72198 said:

Hi
As an adoptive mother, I have done soem extensive research and reading and am also part of a support group for parents of children adopted from India.
Must reads are: '20 things adopted kids wished their parents knew' and 'Talking to young children about adoption' .
Another book I have been passing around to friends is 'What is adoption', a well told book to for non-adopted kids to read and understand.
There is no question at all about whether to tell a child or not. You simply must make it part of your and your child's life from the get go.
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U r right KuttimasAmma, that an adopted child MUSt know that he/she is adopted. No doubt abt that. It is the question of searching for the birth parents that I dread but still would want to be supportive if & when my son wanted to. We are also part of a support group for adoptive parents. We recently took part in a workshop which dealt with the issue of "search" and how important it is for the adopted child.