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Is BLOOD thicker than ... LOVE n CARE ?

Discussion in 'Snippets of Life (Non-Fiction)' started by senzzation, Mar 14, 2011.

  1. senzzation

    senzzation New IL'ite

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    [JUSTIFY]
    I read this article in The Hindu the other day and a pandora's box of emotions seemed to have opened up within me. The reason being that my son was born not out of my flesh n blood but rather from my heart. Yes, I'm an adoptive parent. To me and S, G is our son, our only child. Whenever someone tells us that we've done a noble deed by adopting a baby, we tell them that, in fact, he has done us a favour by coming into our lives. I'm quite sure that these people have no idea about the queue that awaits an adoptive parent at the adoption agencies.


    With the coming of G, our lives got a new meaning, a new direction. He has filled our life with love and happiness. Today, there's no bigger joy in our lives than to see him grow, and nurture him in the best way possible. Yes, we scold him when he misbehaves, we try to show him reason when he is unreasonable, we are thrilled to bits when he hugs and kisses us, and are indulgent when he does something naughty in a nice way. Around me, I have friends which biological children and they treat them no differently from how we treat G.


    Which springs the question in my mind that what happens when & if G someday wants to find his biological parents ? Or, will he face an identity crisis when he learns & understands that he is adopted ? I think that if he ever wanted to know about his biological parents, I would try to help him out in his quest, although I too have very limited knowledge about it. To the latter question, I wish that the answer is NO, he will not be insecure or face an identity crisis. I hope and pray that G grows up to be a well-rounded person who is secure in the knowledge that his parents, that's us, love and care for him and would stand by him through his highs & lows.

    In fact, in our own mythology we have the example of Lord Krishna who was brought up by His adoptive parents because His biological parents were facing an adverse situation which was a threat to their child's well-being. In fact, Yashoda and Nanda, Lork Krishna's adoptive parents, may have been more of an influence on Him than His biological parents, Devaki & Vasudeva.

    Now coming to the article quoted above, I feel that maybe Melanie always felt different from her adoptive parents since she looked very different from them or their other children. I feel that she should view her reunion in a positive light and instead of feeling a sense of loss for the time that she has spent away from her birth parents and siblings, she should see this as an opportunity where she can help them in some way, which she can because of the education & other benefits that her adoptive parents have given her. Also, like a friend mentioned, she should be happy that she has two sets of parents both of whom sought to bring happiness into her life.


    Here's hoping that all stories in life have a Happy Ending. :)


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  2. Keerti16

    Keerti16 Silver IL'ite

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    Firstly Congratulation for adopting. It is something that people with very large hearts can only do.

    I have often wondered why adoptive children feel the need to search for biological parents.I don't actually understand it...a parent is a parent whether biological or adoptive.

    Nice blog!
     
  3. SARASVADIVU

    SARASVADIVU Silver IL'ite

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    Dear senzzation,

    True to your name you are a sensation. Great gesture of adopting!:bowdown

    Praying the Almighty that this wish of yours must get fulfilled:
    "I hope and pray that G grows up to be a well-rounded person who is secure in the knowledge that his parents, that's us, love and care for him and would stand by him through his highs & lows.":thumbsup

    :cheers
    Saras
     
  4. Malar2301

    Malar2301 Gold IL'ite

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    Hi Senzzation...

    Hats off to you and your DH for adopting a kid. Actually even I wanted to...but ...it is not only in my hands!!!

    I'm carried away by your words " I think that if he ever wanted to know about his biological parents, I would try to help him out in his quest, although I too have very limited knowledge about it. "

    :bowdown:bowdown:bowdown
     
  5. senzzation

    senzzation New IL'ite

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    Thanks to you all & thanks a lot for your best wishes. :)
     
  6. AbhiSing

    AbhiSing Gold IL'ite

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    Senzz

    Blood will never be thicker than love and Care. Kudos to your words abt helping your son in his quest to find his other set of parents. Amazing!
    I perfectly understand this becos I have witnessed/witnessing the change in the lives of my Best friends after their loved one came into their lives.

    God Bless !
     
  7. mssunitha2001

    mssunitha2001 IL Hall of Fame

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    Dear senzzation:)

    Your ds is very lucky to have you both as his loving parents and may it remain so forever.

    *Whenever someone tells us that we've done a noble deed by adopting a baby"

    dear...they are not dishonest in telling that...bcos not everyone would have the heart enough to do something like this.

    GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY WITH HAPPINESS, LOVE, PROSPERITY AND ALL GOOD THINGS IN LIFE !!!!!!!!
     
  8. wondergal

    wondergal New IL'ite

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    hatts off to u...............may god bless u n all ur dreams come true
     
  9. anjali10

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    Dear senzzation,

    Thats really great of you !!!
     
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    G is also very lucky to have you as parents. God bless you
     

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