Is arrange marriage loveless?

Even I feel the same after 2 1/2 years of arranged marriage.. My hubby is a good friend and a nice person..
But no romance.. Initially I was feeling for that and stopped expecting for trips, complements, surprises and ofcourse the words "I love you"..
He is supportive for me infront of his parents,(may be because I have to tolerate them) but when he sees his friends/cousins he completely ignores me..
I dont know how I will lead a happy life for the rest of 30/40 years with him..
We can expect the care/affection form our blood relations(parents, sister and children), but for how long?
This question tortures me sometimes..

 

Everything is in our hand... all arranged marriaeges are not successful and all love marriages are not failure.. The way how we are handling is the trick for love or happiness.. Without any expectation if you love him then surely he will pour love on you.. Please show some care towards you also.. whatever you are expecting from him do the same for him.. occasionaly tell him what is your expectation.. Feel free to tell or share everything..

All the best...

 

Even my husband was like that only previously.. but i used to say i love you everyday whenever i feel.. if we are in office then i used to message him even though i dont get any reply from him.. everyday i used to ask him kiss.. whenever we are discussing about something if i won i will ask him to give kiss in a funny way... i used to give him suggestions for his dressing... in everything i used to take part even though he didn't expect.. but finally it became a habit for him.. he started doing all those.. .. so please don't give up..

 

Hi Maya,

How your DH will react when you are suddenly sick.

 

Hi Maya....Your H seems to be a normal person apart from his lack of love towards you. The fact is some men don't know how to express their feelings rather they do have everything inside.

Unless you are taken care of....for all your basic needs; I think you can definitely mold him...Have some patience and follow the tips shared by others. Don't lose hope. One thing I would say is ladies who post here have much more problematic life...cheer up Your H will definitely change.

 

All marriages whether love or arranged become loveless after a point of time. ...

 

Hi Maya,

Mine is a love marriage. I knew my DH for 5 yrs before we finally got married. My DH is exactly the kind of person u are telling.. unromantic..doesnt bother to say i love you..Even if i ask how am i looking, he just says ok even if i dressed well or normally. When we told we are going to get married, many of his friends got surprised that he loves me.. Becuase he just dont know how to express. Many men are like my DH and ur DH. The problem is not able to express.. few people do not know how to express their love. it is just the way to express they are lacking but not love. As chitii has asked, how does he take care of you when u are sick? There are so many men who ill treat their wife and dont even behave like a friend atleast. So just dont think much. You have got a normal person as husband. Try to celebrate small small things.. Have you tried anything from your end? Did you celebrate his birthday in a way he didnt expect? Did you buy something dat really surprised him? So just think about what you can do. Try making special moments with him. Slowly he may change. Or atleast u will have the happiness that u are doing something spcl for the person you love. You love him right? It is not loveless life dear, it is just a life where love is der but hiding somewhere shy to come out Wish you all the best

 

be realistic.Always consider the financial situation,work pressure and stop watching too many bollywood movies.

Always see that your likes/dislikes/preferences/hobbies are close your Dhs. IF not try to change. Dont lecture about freedom or rights or personal choice.

and most imp thing men like in women is capability & maturity to understand the things with out being said.