Innocent Divorcee What's That???

Innocent divorcee:

Ever thought what this meant, hell of a lot of meaning, but not one to prove what it is about, there could be many cases where the groom were innocent about the commitments of the girl or her taste and so on.

I am very skeptic about these metaphors as so many things run in grey matters making matters worse, I have girls and when I seek a guy I don’t want him, as an innocent or non innocent, it does not matter, I can do without such descriptions for all it might be he may have exclusive elusive tastes which we can do without…

We also notice the promotion of the woman from the back benchers to the top whistlers in the super market of matrimony, I am helpless to state matrimony as a super market is because of the tall made to orders that come by. Those days the ads were, well educated and domesticated don’t ask me what that means, is it docile or some one biddable.
Adjustable and family oriented, now I thought matrimony and family orientation go hand in glove as each woman is the back bone any day and has to learn how to be blending with other human from different surrounding and taste, don’t know why I feel the picture of a blender with the right amount of fruits and sugar and cream and milk and so on….

Now the advertisement read, wanted fair beautiful, professionally qualified from cultured family, this puts me in a spot, are they seeking wives or some professional to run their homes, that is shell out monetarily, and now here one cannot expect her to be a super woman of handling emotional ties, like the parent of the boy may not agree with her being snobbish if they never co operated and are so used to the daughter in law being a submissive person using her as a punching bag, to vent out their anger from the days of their young woman hood when her mother in law was treating her like that, as it is her turn to relax she might as well be assertive about what she wants from her.

Very well defined, but the advertisement meant something else, fair beautiful all ok then why this professional, you want to try out your old tactics on a girl whose parent had to slog hard to pay the high fees to complete her professional course so she could be having a affordable life, and these people want her to put up with all their tantrum because they are unable to change their habits, and they want is a designer punching bag….

With so many people’s idea to get a guy married, leave alone the initial nakshatram, gothram and so many hurdles, but I think all in a family need counseling before they enter into matrimony in the family to save so many innocent divorcees, never make monster of a woman by bringing her with so many definitions and expecting her to be docile and still do many things for the mother in law and father in law and sister in law.

Now let us come to the other side, even if the mother in law is prepared to be nice, some girls come with all defenses up and a lot of planned ideas that they cannot have his parent around in the same roof, so even if they are nice parents they have to start looking for a home without their son. The son here is at a loss, to whom should he adhere to his parents who have taken care for so many years or the new wife, who cannot take anything straight but looks all with nonsense…Man has a great role and tough one at that, he has to learn to pacify both his parents and the wife, like how one of my friend said if he has to avoid saying sorry after 50yrs of marriage which is futile he has to plan something before getting into the matrimony.
Regards sunkan

 

oh mals,
i am splitting reading your reply, there is always another side to every issue humour, which will help us tide over the worst in life..sunkan