Indian marriages and Values-Makes me wanna scream

Forgive me, English is not my first language. Forgive me for my long post.
Can we break this chain reaction?
God has made girls /boys/human beings in general for a purpose, isn’t that enough for us? Why do we discriminate?

Parents give children valuable lessons. Once you reach the age of 25 parents will help you in choosing your partner. Parents of girl and boy give them the valuable education. But Girl's stuff somebody else’s (her parents) pocket for big halls, dowry, gifts and above all the carnage on flowers. They look very beautiful on trees.

Why doesn’t she take a step forward to save up her money and only spend her money on this? Shame on us!!

The society itself grooms the girl’s parents and the girls differently from their birth in order to make them go humble with everyone who has a Son. There are always exceptions but this is the reality that’s been faced by every girl and girl’s parents.

A change with the above thing is a must now. Women will encounter gender bias at almost every stage in their life.

Indian guys share their own savings on their marriage and they don’t burden their parents so much. But the girl’s parents have to spend a lot since they gave birth to a GIRL it goes until her son/daughter are grown up. If that’s a daughter then spend again shoots up for gold ornaments for her. So called rituals favours men.

Why the hell there are ornaments in this world? Okay let me not scold the ornament because I actually like them but whom the hell are they force me to wear them all day without removing? Its all individual beliefs. Please this may be hurting but think here.

Once the girl is married, she has to move to her husbands home as MEN were supposed to take care of the family and provide everything(other than cooking & cleaning) his wife will have to move in with him. Literally the GIRL is married to the whole family . They will be bossy or a kind of bully over her. She has to please the man , his mom, his dad, his siblings if any and only then she will be named as ‘good girl’. But in this great system its not mandatory for the guy to please the girl’s parents or siblings if any. Do I really need this name? These pitiful people have real problem with namingLOL. Segregating a girl from her parents and moving with guy’s parents is called joint family. Not a correct meaning though but that’s what it meansROFL.

In the mean time, guy’s parents will expect the girl to follow their traditions and the point here whatever that she has followed in her family will be forced to drop and if the husband is a momma boy(mostly they will be), he will take his parents side. They start nurturing her for baby (family heir). The real game starts here again. They want the baby to be boy (Ladies can you find a device to get the ‘y’ chromosomes from the man).Wonder if they know the real science behind this (some people behave as if they know nothing).

Baby has to be named according to the GUYS FAMILY TRADITION. In the mean time, the women lose her new married happiness. So she started showing all her care towards her child. After years, she again helps her son in choosing partner. Since she was a submissive dil, she turns to be a dominant mil (This is really true please apply ‘the more the pressure the more the eruption will be’ concept at least here:bowdown). But when her son supports his wife, they can’t tolerate and rift occurs in relation (they can’t tolerate because they can’t accept them as a grown ups and they feel happy about spoon feeding everything. They don’t know to stop it when the child feels enough). This is a chain reaction. Motherhood is overrated. I have never seen a girl’s mother boasting about her sacrifices she made for her daughter to her so called son-in-law. But the other sector always boasts about their sacrifices. If motherhood is unconditional, then there should not be gender discretion. If a husband respects wife, everyone will respect her. If he tries to control her, then everyone will take her for granted.


To all parents: Enjoy your life with your spouse and let the children(girl/boy) enjoy after marriage.

PS: Girls who try to speak against Patriarchy will be coined as adamant. (This is again due to the problem with the naming :rotfl ) Indian guys suffer a lot They are sandwitched.

mommy boys create dominant future mother mother in laws.
Submissive daughter in laws might make dominant mother in laws.(there are exceptions)
This system is not at all favoring women. But this is carried by women…(do they really have more electrons…need to research)