In the name of HELP!!!

I think people have no clue were to start : )

 

Shilpa,

So far no situations faced to plead funds either from PMO or UNO.
My ILs try to keep away everyone at a safe distance as far as possible.
They are a very close knit family (As described in Matrimonial sites)

 

same here....I can write a book on this ....

 

My experience with my MIL's and sils' post natal care was so horrific that I decided not to have any more kids. In our community, the baby is born at the ILs place and not dil's parents'. In the name of care, I was confined to my room. It was peak summer in northern India but I was not allowed to even put the fan on, or open the windows, watch TV or read anything. Nobody helped if the baby cried at night. DH was travelling at that time. I had to be awake all night and as I fell asleep in the wee hrs of the morning as the baby fell asleep, I was woken up again for a massage and bath. The food was whatever they wanted to provide. Most times I vomited as soon as swallowed, for which I was criticized. Sometimes, there was so much salt that you just could not eat it. I literally went hungry for 2.5 months and trust me I am NOT a fussy eater. I begged them to give me normal food that everybody was eating and they refused. They relentlessly kept on giving me the same food. I was obviously producing very little milk, but they even refused to let me give my baby powder milk or any other milk. He was hardly growing at all. Once, sil cooked something with lot of ghee and sugar, but I could not swallow it, to which my MIL commented, bechari sil made that but she is not even eating it.

The irony is when sils had their babies, none of these rules were followed. They were allowed to eat whatever they liked and feed their babies whatever they liked and then my MIL happily stated look at sil's kids, they are so chubby.:rant:rant:rant

 

Dear ShilpaMa,

Thanks for starting this thread. I was looking for similar thread to start. I am adding one more, where the daughters think about their parents, that Her parents have gifted their son to DIL.

1. when ever I read the above statement in few posts, I wonder "Is bringing a girl along with the money in the name of dowry from another family for their son" is considered as Gift. :bonk ( i have different word for that, I think you naughty ladies would have guessed)

2. Aren't DILs are gifted by her parents to PIL's Son to do all household work along with dowry and a womb to bear their family name.

 

Reminds me of all the worms infested dals my mil insisted on packing for me to take with me. And of course everything nice including my parents' gifts were kept by her and everything old, damaged, misshapen was packed for us. There was an old B&W TV that my husband got exchanged for a new color one. My MIL installed the new one in her home and packed the old one for us. :roll:

 

good shilpama...you also made me remember my first help...

1. My FIL took cash from my father instead of furniture saying that children can buy of their choice theirself ....but later on we neither got furniture nor that cash from my FIL (he kept it with him never asked us once if you need it) ...we bought everything by ourself and criticized by my MIL for everything - is cheej ki kya jaroorat thi?? Also she tells me about other people purposely who got sofa, bed etc in their marriage.........:spin

2. MIL came with us for setting our house....she didn't do a bit...I can understand how can she set my house while she never set hers......she live with us till the time I had leaves and enjoyed my seva....when I started going to office and real time came for help as I was travelling 2.5 hrs (one side...5 hrs in total) for office....she gone back to her home...(it was very first time ...I felt strange but didn't give much space to it in my mind that time...)