In Lieu Of Silent Treatment?

After 13 years of trial and error, I have found the way to handle my silent treatments I simply DONT go silent I act with my DH as if nothing has happened. I dont go lovey dovey over him, but I have normal conversations . If he chooses to stay silent, i'll just say "ok. Then I'll just do this so and so". I refuse to torture myself with the silent treatments anymore

 

I'm going to borrow that.

Silent treatment might make some spouses happy. Use judiciously.

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Two important things:

1. There is no problem in this world that can't be talked and resolved.
2. There is no mistake in this world that can't be forgiven.

If a husband and wife understand the true meaning of this, then married life will be happy.
If either one does not understand this, then always there is a problem.

 

Actually I was trying to recollect what I do and realized well I haven't faced this situation at all..
1) My husband hardly gets into an argument with me. Yes I get angry I have broken phones , thrown the plates around but all this is nothing to shake his patience. He is patience personified
2) now in the rare cases we have argued I have gone back to him in 5 mins with a sorry. Yes after breaking the phone also I have done that shamelessly. I can't hold anything at all against this man for more than 5 mins.. It troubles me more than anything.

 

I write a snippet and read it out to him.

I am learning to shut up and give him the silent treatment. Not that he always understands/responds. By the time he comes home he behaves like nothing happened. Continued silent treatment i.e. no response to his questions might lead to enlightenment that he has done something wrong. But it is certainly more effective than all my screaming and shouting.