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  1. Rihana

    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    Silent treatment is a lot of work and needs the cooperation of and acknowledgement from the husband.

    When you are angry or annoyed with husband, what organized or reflexive treatments do you engage in? In lieu of silent treatment.
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    Rihana Moderator Staff Member IL Hall of Fame

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    I start on the grocery list on phone after he steps out to the grocery store. Grocery has to happen whether I am angry or annoyed or not.

    I added "common sense 1%" and "common sense 2%" to the list below the 1% and 2% milk. Felt darned good.
     
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    Do not react. I used to shout, argue back, big mistake. It gave him a weapon to dominate me. One of my acquaintances told me not to take liberty as a wife, when I was leaving after marriage. She told me not to advise or state an opinion thinking that he is after all my husband and he loves me. It works with parents and siblings, doesn't work with husband. Understand his moods and his personality and then you will know how to respond. It may take years, but surely you will start getting it with time. Iyerviji's advice is the best.
     
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    Depends on what degree I am upset...

    - no cooking (he paces around the kitchen like a cat when it's time to eat)
    - buy expensive saree online and the bill goes to him
    - drive away without telling him where I am going (usually, I don't drive when he is around)
    (he comes running to ask, holding the garage / kitchen door, watching me like a kid left behind by his mom....)
    - close the door / pretend to sleep (I stock up on snacks / watch TV with captioning on)
    - Send online gifts to my mom
     
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    You my dear Viji are a class apart. :worship2:
     
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    Hmmm.. Sound advice but I wouldn't be able to accomplish that in this lifetime. Tropical shower -- shot outpour and then over -- that's me.
     
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    I do that plus don't tell anyone till dinner time. They open the fridge and only then realize. I make instant upma for myself in microwave or stove-top calmly.
     
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    We are at queen bee status once cross the xxth anniversary ....nothing can come close, mastered the art of marriage / managing DH.
     
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    I always wonder what other ladies do/ react during silent treatment.Good topic!

    I pretend that I’m fine with silent treatment and be in my own world.
    Won’t wake up until he leaves home.

    Watch movies, comedy scenes listen to my favourite songs and so on.

    I will cook very lately and minimally and only when I’m hungry! I cook my favourite stuffs.

    I show anger on objects, water bottles doors etc.

    If it crosses more than few days and I am in cool mood and bugged of silent treatment, when he is sleeping I bang him with a toy hammer:smash2: and then start crying blaming him for all that happened :tearsofjoy:.
     
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