hi ladies, i've read your posts for a while now, this is my 1st time posting. i have a big problem, and i admire the advice you've given others, if you can, please help me too. i've been married to DH since 2007, love marriage. i'm 20, DH is 32. the problem is, last year my inlaws came and stayed for four months. i like them and try to please them, but it's very hard for DH and me. i'm a full time student and he's working but his job at a c-store pays very less. the inlaws demand money, last time $1,000 cash plus clothes, dinner out, entertainment, etc for 4 months straight, total came to more than $5,000. If we had the money, I would give to them, but we don't. they stayed with us in our 1 bedroom apartment starting from two week before we were married. when my husband went to work, they kept telling me about my DH's ex-wife... her favorite colors, how she dressed, how pretty she was, even about the honeymoon suite that they got her and my DH. they go on and on about how in love my DH was with her. last time there was another indian girl accross the street from us, i offered to take them anywhere they wanted to go, but they never wanted to go with me, only with the girl accross the street. my mil kept telling me that DH and i should divorce, that hurt very much. when me and DH were talking in bedroom she burst through the door and tried to hit me. DH said nothing to her. Every month the phone bill would come in $150 over due to mil and she wanted to go shopping every day. I had to stay in my room for sometimes two days at a time, and my DH would bring me my dinner, it was like prison. I wanted to kill myself, but didn't want my family to suffer. During that time I got a job to help with the expenses they were causing, I had to drop out of classes at school and I lost my scholarship. Now I'm back in school full time, I can't handle a job too. Without even asking me, my DH invited his parents to stay with us again next month. We have no money whatsoever, I don't know what to do. He doesn't view them as a burden, he views them as a gift. Because of money problems we don't even have children or a house, yet he's willing to give everything to them. Last time they would talk bad about me on the other side of our bedroom door, calling me mad, crazy, slut, sometimes DH would ask them to stop, but still they kept talking about me. They threatened to send me back to my family if I didn't do what they told me to do, they are very bold in the way they talk to me. My DH is so tired from work, all he wanted was a vaccation this summer, but now all of our money will go to them. They drink all day long when they are here and say hurtful things to me day in and day out. They used to yell abusive things at me very loud, so much that neighbors complained to the apartment complex managers about them, and they were told they had to leave, or else DH would have let them stay forever. Apartment complex told that if we have anyone over for more than 2 weeks, we'll be evicted and fined. Still my DH is letting them come for many months. I'm so stressed out. Last time I was stupid for considering suicide, now I'm considering divorce. Everything was fine at home between DH and me until he told me they were coming, now everything is bad. I'm so so sad. I love my husband but cant' live like this for the rest of my life. Last year when this happened my husband took their side and called me a whore, prostitute, and told me to f-off. my family hates his family for what they do to me. i try so hard to make them happy, but they ask more of us than what we can give. what should I do? how can i keep them from coming? i'm scared to talk to my DH about this, he blows up at me whenever I talk to him about his parents. before marriage my DH never told me life would be like this, he knew i liked to live an independent life. when my DH had arranged marriage to ex-wife, the inlaws never went to their house, not even once in 3 years. but with us, they come every year from india and tourture me. why? my DH is mba educated in india, very modern in every other way. he said he always wanted a modern educated and independent wife. so why does he put me through this? i have lost all my dreams of having a house or a family with my DH because all of our money goes to them when they come. for the record, my inlaws own several very well known businesses in india and do not need money. i left my family against their wishes to marry my DH. i gave up a wealthy lifestyle, my friends, everything to be with him, i loved him so much i would do anything for him. so why can't he tell his parents "no"? sorry for the long post, i'm at my breaking point. please help me.